[sex habits] Do you have a cute sex-related secret you don't tell your SO?
I've never told my wife this, but I get instantly hard whenever we get home and she starts blow-drying her hair after she takes a shower.
Why? Because she only does that when she wants to look nice later on in the night because she plans to have sex with me.
I don't know if she knows that I know, but it's a fun little thing for me because it gives me something to plan around a bit when I know she's prepping herself, lol.
This is so adorable that you noticed 😭💕
When me and my wife didnt have our own place we used to initiate sex by saying "wanna have a shower?". I still get hard when I get a sniff of her shampoo. One time when I had a shower (actual shower, alone) before work I had run out of my own shampoo, so I took some of hers. I had this weird boner and was constantly aroused all day at work, and I didnt know why. I later realised I smelt like my love :)
Whenever my girlfriend has finished orgasm she does a little giggle every time. So i can tell 100% when she's done. She doesn't noticed she does it and it drives her crazy i can tell the exact moment :D
i really love this giggle
That's so cute and sexy! I have a huge sleep kink. I like when my boyfriend does sexual things or fucks me while I'm sleeping. But what he doesn't know is that most of the time I just pretend I'm sleeping, because I want to be awake to feel it lol!
Wife and I had anal last night for the first time! Big step forward!
Congrats. This should be reposted whenever someone asks about anal. Resisting the urge to pound away is the key. After a few more times of this I predict you will slide all the way and she will say " is it all the way ?" Because it won't feel like that. Then over time you can experiment with speed and depth. Just follow the feedback. I hated anal for years because of an douchebag boyfriend that just rammed it in.
I read countless stories right here on Reddit about women who took YEARS to give it a second try, because the guy just rammed it in the first try.
While we were doing this, I wanted to just push deeper and deeper, but I figured that if she was enjoying it the way it was, and if it wasn't painful at all, that would be good. If she CAME, it would give her no reason not to want to do it again. So that's exactly what happened. She came fucking hard, and she never had any pain at all.
So it's all the stories I've read before that reminded me to take it easy and make sure that she's ok. Thanks reddit! Haha.
But yeah, I'm sorry about your dumbass boyfriend. I hope you're enjoying anal now!
Yeah man, I'm fucking excited for how good the first time was. All I can think about now is getting back into that ass.
Sounds amazing. Be careful to have some warm up in the future, but otherwise CONGRATS!
People who have tried the Holy Grail of Cum, are there any adverse long term effects?
I feel a whoosh going over my head. What's the holy grail of cum?
I had to look this up to satisfy my own curiosity. It looks like a combination of supplements to increase load
Here's the link to the original post https://www.thundersplace.org/male-supplements/holy-grail-of-cum-load-increase.html
Looking things up can cause like...lots of diseases. Don't ever look it up.
Who is in control, me or my vagina?
I'm a guy so a bit different but years ago I was at the pub on valentines day, had to work at 6am the next day so couldn't be out late. Anyway pretty lady hits on me and bam, I'm at her place till 5 am. No sleep and back at work. Worst shift ever.
Everyone applauded. Obama was there. He high fived us both and invited us to come stay with him.
Yes, I believe you, two day old account who had done nothing but post erotic fiction that is transparently written by a guy. You go girl.
Haha yeah I didn't get much sleep last night and I'm working all day today. Going to be standing up and talking to people all day too - that should be fun!!
I don't think this happened. To you, anyway.
But you're a really good writer.
Do You Know What A Doorstop Is? They cost about $3 from Home Depot, Target, Walmart, etc. If door of the room (home, dorm, office) you are using for sex or masturbation doesn't have a lock then you might want to get one.
In reaction to "[large dildo] I (f19) got caught masturbating (embarrassed)" thought I should post this tip for those in situations where the door might not have a lock and there's the possibility mom, dad, siblings, roommates or pets might barge in during sexy time.
Getting busted during or right after sex is one of the most stressful rights of passage there is and really teaches you nothing but the value of not going through it (when I was about 19 I had been fapping in the living room when my family came back from a vacation early. Wasn't caught In flagrante delicto but what I left behind in my dash to my bedroom was ample evidence I had been abusing myself shortly before).
I used to work for a company that had a lot of people traveling internationally for business to areas known for fluid political situations.
The head of security used to issue a doorstop to all the employees traveling internationally to give them a few extra seconds to try and find an escape route if someone tried to breach their hotel room.
As with most jobs involving high personal risk, probably either pays extremely well, or is incredibly fulfilling.
If you're going to buy a doorstop just make sure it has a flared base
I saw the image of the doorstop first before reading the text and was already preparing to type "whatever floats your boat".
Can I vent for a second about the [BBC myth]?
My wife and I swing. And I can't tell you how many times how many women of all different races approach me and start in on some BBC nonsense. It's so fucking annoying.
I am not a brand of fuck toy, I'm a human male. Nothing special about my anatomy at all. I do not come pre-fitted with a giant cock just because of my skin color.
Even guys (I'm bi) do this shit and you'd think they would know better! It's so fucking deflating to be vibing with someone, you think you're going to have a great sexual experience with them and then they go ahead and set an expectation you can't live up to.
Free LPT: if you wouldn't walk up to a jew and talk about how cheap they are, you wouldn't walk up to an Asian and ask them a math question, you wouldn't walk up to a gay guy and ask him where his purse is, then don't fucking assume every black male who's ever been born is packing a massive cock in their pants.
It's not flattering. Hell, even if I had a massive cock I don't think I'd find it flattering. It's dehumanizing. You're effectively communicating to every black male that's smaller than average, average, or even, in many cases, bigger than average that he's less valuable because of the circumstances of his birth.
And to the drunk girl last weekend who pulled my pants down and said "...what a let down." You talked yourself out if great oral and fingers.
People who are blaming porn are not aware of the history of this stereotype. It goes way further back than modern BBC pornography, hundreds of years in fact. The references can be found as far back as the 1500's. Black men were portrayed as hypersexual and animalistic, including huge penises, as part of their demonization as sexual predators who are coming to rape white women. Porn capitalizes on and continues to promote this stereotype, but it didn't invent it by a long shot. It was already very much in the cultural consciousness in a very negative way.
You'd be surprised by the amount of people at work that insult my boyfriend by commenting that he has small dick because he's Asian. People are really stupid. Just know that these people are idiots and not worth wasting time on anyways.
part of their demonization as sexual predators who are coming to rape white women.
Yep. And let's not forget the role that played in lynchings in the late 19th/early 20th century. Or, perhaps most famously, the murder of Emmett Till.
Shit, people have died because of this.
I've had non-Asian guys attempt to use that as a pick-up line because I'm an east Asian woman.
Like what exactly are you trying to accomplish here.
My husband caught my 16 year old daughter having sex and is now freaking out on both of my daughters, but not my son. [Sexual Discrimination]
First, let me say I love my husband. We've been married twenty years after dating for 3. He's always had a great open relationship with my daughters (18 and 16) until he walked in our younger one having sex. He gave them guy advice and was great with the oldest's Ex-boyfriend. His reaction caught us all off guard.
He was livid, nearly assaulted the boy she was with, and then told my daughter under no circumstances was anyone besides me was "getting fucked" in his household. It's the only time he's cursed in front of any of our kids and we're all still in shock. My husband was supportive of our oldest daughter joining a sorority this fall, but now he told her he's not paying for college if she does. He claims Frat guys are no good.
Here's the thing: He was a frat guy. I met my husband our junior year and my friends told me to stay away from him. I have met multiple girls he's had sex with, and know his old friends joke about him "breaking a chapter record" the year he lived in the fraternity house.
He's been an active donor and advocate of Greek life for our kids, but now he's changed his tune. Why?
He's hasn't been any less loving to our daughters, but he's definitely more skeptical of guys being around and told our daughters he doesn't want guys in the house, and that what they do outside of the house is their business but not in his house.
Our daughters are obviously on egg shells around him because they've both had boyfriends, but I don't know why the idea of one of them having casual sex frustrates him. Our oldest is heartbroken because a couple of her older friends are at a specific sorority that she's visited. He's now saying no because he doesn't want our daughter hooking up with "21 year old Frat assholes".
He's now totally against it for both of them, but not my son and it's infuriating. Our son is 15 and got caught with the neighbor's daughter and my husband put his arm around him and laughed afterwards. My husband knows our son, who's younger has sex but claims it's different. I'm not saying I want my daughters to spread their legs for anyone, but they have urges too
He claims boys at that age think they're unworthy if they're not having sex, and that my son's just proving himself. He justifies it by saying his first time was at 14, and as long as we teach our son consent and respect that he's fine. It's infuriating because he doesn't want our daughters having sex when he was doing the same exact thing at a younger age and so is our son.
Any advice? We've talked but this has been such a stalemate. It's confusing as well because my husbands always been on the side of feminine issues. He took my daughters to CVS around puberty to buy them feminine products, talked to them about their emotions , but left the sex stuff to me. Why does he care?
VERY HAPPY UPDATE: Hey guys, so he was working from home today and I showed him your reactions. He grimaced, but admitted the people who said it was going to ruin his relationship with our daughters had an impact, as well as the commented who told me he could educate them. He apologized and talked with me and then we had a talk with as a family. He apologized to me and my daughters for his reaction, the "getting fucked" comment. He said it was the heat of the moment and things happened so quickly he just lost it since that conversation was right after he walked in.
We went on to have a very healthy conversation about sex. I lead it at first, but was extremely happy when he told them they were supposed to enjoy sex,want to have it, and that it's their business so he can't be mad. He told them he just wants them to make good decisions. He gave them both advice on staying safe emotionally and sexually. He told my daughters college and their activities in it were there choice. I can tell this was hard for him to say. I think it's a part of him realizing he's going to have to let go very soon and a part of that is realizing our daughters aren't little girls anymore.
I was the happiest when he talked to our son afterwards and told him to not think of it as a game and there's no winning, and that he was honestly too young to be having sex, but that if he was to find someone he can connect with . He described some of his own family problems our kids didn't know about and stated that it led him down a bad path that hurt a lot of people he was with . He openly admitted to them he was a jerk in college and that seeing his younger daughter having sex was like "walking in on himself during his own college years" and scared him.
Not going to say he's the happiest right now. I can tell he's upset because so much just hit him, but he knows he was wrong. I think the comments about him being a full blown hypocrite were kind of a smack to the face, but I'm glad you guys were rough. I think he realized he had a choice to make and made the best one. My daughters approached me after and seem relieved and much happier about their dad "not being mad at them" anymore, so I'm happy. Thank you guys!
My dad freaked out at me about how all men are animals when I was a teenager. Years later I found out its because he cheated on my mom in college (she already knew this), and THAT'S why he was so set on convincing me men are all assholes who want one thing.
He's got baggage about the stuff he did and he's only now fully understanding/empathizing with the implications of what he did when he was in college. He's probably super mad at himself and scared shitless for his daughters.
He needs to 1) forgive himself - there's nothing he can do now about who he used to be and 2) he needs to get over his anxiety about his daughters. Even if they don't stay in a sorority, MANY bad things can happen to them. That's life. Bad things happen. The key isn't to insulate them from the bad things, it's teaching them how to get back up.
I think your husband probably knows he did some less than morally appropriate things to girls in college and can't stand the thought of it happening to his daughters. Whether it was cheating, fucking a girl and never talking to her again or sharing pictures/stories, etc. Whatever.
The hypocrisy when it comes to your son... While I don't condone it, I do understand it. To him that's just his son becoming a man, succeeding.
But your daughter's are still his little girls. It's a tough barrier for a lot of men to get across.
It's your money too and your life. Stand up to him.
Also get the girls on long term birth control. They will have sex. Better to not get knocked up.
I'm not surprised he's freaking. I think he likely did something or saw something while in a frat that he regrets.
One critical but mundane note on this: keeping your daughter out of a sorority is an absurdly ineffective way to prevent her from hooking up with frat boys. Im shocked that he doesn't understand this. "Oh, there's no greek letters sewn onto her breasts, I guess Im not interested in them."
The girl I'm dating said some pretty racist stuff to me during sec [dirty talk]
So I lost my virginity to her on Valentine's day (fucking hooray, right?) and we've been having tons of sex since. It's been getting better and better until earlier today.
Don't get me wrong, it was super hot. We rushed to her place after working out together and things were going great. Then she started calling me a nigger over and over again. We never spoke about this before hand. I would have been open to it, it just felt kind of messed up that she didn't ask first.
Anyway, I was altogether okay with her calling me a nigger within the context she said it but after a while she went from some pretty sexy race play to some overtly racist and degrading comments.
"Fuck me you stupid slave" "You don't deserve this white pussy"
Those are two of the things she said. Trust me there was a lot more and a lot worse. Towards the end it was comical like something out of a Dave Chappelle skit.
I talked to her about it afterward and she was apologetic and very remorseful. It's just weird and I'm new to sex so I thought I'd post here.
Wow, I'm sorry this happened to you. It sounds like she's very into raceplay -- which is a thing -- but it was NOT okay to spring it on you and involve you in it without your consent. That's really, really the kind of more hardcore kink that you absolutely have to get consent about first.
I would understand this being a dealbreaker for you, but if it's not, I would have a frank conversation with her about whether this is a sexual kink for her and if it is set clear boundaries about what you are and aren't okay with in the future. If she crosses them, no third chances.
To any men of sexxit who feel [neglected, unappreciated, and not sexy], especially in a sexual relationship..
Obviously this issue can happen to both men and women, but as a woman who has heard about and read about a lot of guys who feel like their partners aren't hot for them or they never receive compliments from women, I just wanted to say this to you.
You guys are freaking awesome. Some of you are big and gruff and manly, some of you are slender and refined, some of you have rockin dad bods and some of you are chubby or hairy or hairless or tall or short or muscly or muscle-free. I don't give a damn which one you are, you're a sexy-ass guy with a smile to kill a special someone and a fantastic dick that makes us feel awesome regardless of size or shape. Your hands make us feel safe, your little grunts and moans are hot as hell, and when you give us a cheeky spank or put your hand on our hips, or plant a kiss on our foreheads, you make our day. The effort you put in to make our bodies feel amazing is appreciated, and your bodies are amazing for us to touch and kiss and play with too. Thank you for sharing them with us.
There's a reason your partner or anyone chose to bang you. You're hot shit to them. Rock on you sexy thangs.
That is all.
Edit: really happy this seems to have struck a chord with so many people, I almost didn't post it cos I worried people would think it was lame. Glad I did in the end. Thanks for the gold, I've never had that before! :) Keep spreading the sex positivity and love you sexual beasts <3
The noises....I so wish guys made MORE noise
I love inhaling the scent of my girlfriend's vagina [sexuality]
Seriously, though. Sometimes I get a whiff of that intoxicating aroma from my girlfriend's pussy, and it drives my testosterone though the roof. I caught her scent today, while lying in bed. Instant, throbbing boner. She gave me this coy smile, which just made me harder. I ended up pulling off her panties, flipping her over, and burying my face in her pussy. I just feel that visceral, all-consuming desire when I get that scent.
I love her, we connect in so many ways. And that smell makes me so hungry for her. Her brown eyes, her pale soft skin, her personality, the memories, her legs. Ugh, she's so beautiful. And when I smell her pussy, I feel so much closer to her; this is the woman I love, and these are her most intimate pheromones. And knowing that I am possessing her, no one else, make it hotter. Knowing that I'm bending her over, making her pussy juicier, her heart quicken, is so hot. Her back arched, ass in the air, eager to take me into her — all of it makes me want her so badly.
I think this is actually kinda sweet.