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I finally orgasmed from my vibrator!!!

I finally orgasmed from my vibrator!!!

Woohoo!

So great to hear :) Can you share us you vibretor model ? so we can all know which one is best for sensitive clit :)

Nice one! Hopefully it'll bring a new dimension with your partner, hope you both enjoy it :)

for the record, I've seen tons of "toy recommendations" with their names and such in this subreddit.

I gave this guy blue balls, he masturbated to finish?

I gave this guy blue balls, he masturbated to finish?

Ok so please help me out here:

I had a date with this guy, we grabbed dinner and had a great time. We went back to his place to watch movies/drink whatever. He said he had some cannabies gummies and that we should try them- sure (mind you I don’t ever do MJ).

Fast forward half an hour, we start making out, his hands under my shirt and he’s kissing me all over. Then I feel his hands on my butt, under my pants and I’m a little nervous like “he’s moving too fast” so I kinda stop him and we just snuggle, at some point the cannabis kicks in and I swear I’ve never been sleepier in my entire life and I can barely keep my eyes open. He wakes up/starts kissing me again blah blah and tries to take my pants off and I’m like “nope” and he says it’s fine, but then like 2min after he’s like “ahhh so painful (something about me giving him blue balls) and I’m thinking “I should leave” but then he starts masturbating (??) and I’m just there half passed out, and then he finishes and I actually leave his place. I felt so awkward that I gave him an awkward hug and left.

Please help me make sense out of this, I liked the guy a lot and thought everything was great (up to when he thought we were going to have sex) but I kind of have blurry memories from being really sleepy, I think at some point we were both asleep, and I do feel bad for giving him blue balls, but like I also felt that it was kind of too awkward at the end for us to make it to a second date?

Thoughts?

You have no reason to feel bad, you didn't "give him blue balls". If anything he did it to himself. You weren't the one initiating anything, you weren't "getting him worked up" and then stopping him. He was the one coming onto you, and you stopped him when you didn't want to go any further. Nothing wrong with that. If HE can't handle fooling around without "finishing", then he shouldn't be "taking the chance" of initiating things with someone who hasn't already expressed a desire to have sex right then.

You have every right to feel too awkward or uncomfortable to have a second date. Him pulling his junk out and jerking off in front of someone who just turned him down for sex, is definitely an inappropriate, creepy thing to do. It would be different if you were a couple, or already sexually active together, but on a first date with someone who just said no to sex, that's just sleazy.

He’s an ass. That’s the first point.

Ok, you told him to stop and he stopped. Good for him, he’s not a rapist. He’s horny still, so he pulls his dick out and jerks off?!? And says something to excuse his behavior. He made an excuse before he did it, he knew it wasn’t an acceptable thing to do but he did it anyway. A ‘gentleman’ excuses himself to the bathroom for that sort of thing.

An Asshole pulls his dick out in front of a girl who doesn’t want to go any further. This is Harvey Weinstein territory.

At that moment in time he didn’t care about you, or more over he cared more about his dick and balls then about you as a person. His orgasm comes first, literally. Consider that carefully for any future considerations of a relationship of any kind with him.

You asked him to stop, twice. That is the key part of the story to me. He should've respected it the first time.

There's more here to analyze, but I'm a dude so I feel like I can't credibly comment on the details.

Long story short, you do not have to get someone else off of you don't want to. Though again I can't discuss the details; there are obvious exceptions, including if she felt in danger if she tried to leave.

I didnt believe in blue balls till one day I was having sex, got incredibly close, and we suddenly had to stop. It hurt, like in the balls.

Now mind you, that was after a full build up, not after getting mildly cockblocked twice and trying to find an excuse to whip my dick out.

Basically, I'm calling BS on the blue balls and I think he just wanted to create a sexual situation with you and get off. Of course I can only speculate.

I discovered a new BJ technique last night that apparently is THE BOMB

I discovered a new BJ technique last night that apparently is THE BOMB

I love giving head to my boyfriend, I've always liked giving blowjobs with previous partners but his penis is so enticing I can't keep myself from trying to get him in my mouth as often as possible. After 3 years of almost daily blowjobs though, I've felt like I've tried every technique under the sun and that since I know exactly what he likes best I've been giving him the same experience over and over.

Well! Yesterday we went out to a bar and when we got home we were both fairly sloshed, which normally for him means he can't cum at all but we always get frisky when we're tipsy so I decided I'd give him a really slooooooow deep BJ and then we'd probably go to sleep in the middle of it. I licked and kissed and sucked him very very slowly for about 30 minutes and then I started to do that "infinity vagina" move where you place a loose, wet fist over his head and move your hand down his shaft, simulating a vagina, and then as soon as his head appears on the other side you use your other hand in the same manner, which apparently feels like never-ending penetration. I don't know if there's a technical term to this method. He was half asleep by then but I started to feel his hips trembling which happens when he has a very slowly building orgasm coming, so I kept going with that tactic while starting to flick my tongue on his frenulum in that split second between my hands meeting. I started using more and more of my mouth until I was just sucking on his head and licking the underside while still doing the infinity vagina movements with my hands and at this point his whole body was shaking and he was moaning and grasping the sheets with his hands. He came after just 10 seconds of that and it just kept coming but instead of spurting like usual it was oozing out of his dick like lava or something. I usually like to show him how much he came in my mouth but there was so much it would have spilled out if I opened my mouth so I swallowed it right away. He said it's the first time he was able to cum while drunk, score!

Anyways I'll be trying that technique out again when we're both sober to see if it's as mind-blowing as he said it was, but just wanted to share in case there any other people out there looking for new moves to add to their repertoire ^ ^

*I'm strangely so proud of this post so I'd really like it if anyone who might have used this technique would come back and tell me about their experience. I hope to have helped many of you guys and gals give your partners a new experience in receiving head. And tell me your best tricks too cause I want to keep giving my man orgasms like the one he had in this post.

After 3 years of almost daily blowjobs

Some people are just so fucking lucky.

Umm. Fuck. That sounds awesome. Thanks from all of us women. I’ve got a new technique to try!!

Right?! I've never had a bf that let me blow him every day but a girl can dream

I actually looked it up myself to see if there was already a term for that technique since I know it's not clear with my explanation, but I wasn't able to find anything. Basically you hold the base of his penis with one hand while forming a loose fist with the other, with lots of spit or lube in it. Fist should look like this when you look at it, but loose so there's a tunnel of well-lubed space going through. Then you place that fist on top of his head and slowly move it down in one smooth motion, and as soon as the tip of his penis appears at the top hole you immediately form the same fist with the hand holding his dick and place it on top of his head so you replicate the entire movement with your other hand, all while your first hand is still moving down his shaft. Then when his head peeks out again you take that first hand off the shaft and make the fist and repeat the motion yet again. Etc etc. Basically his penis is seamlessly experiencing the downward stroke of a handjob over and over with no break in between, so it feel like it's endlessly penetrating a vagina. 

I think I should put this explanation under "infinity vagina" in urban dictionary...

I actually looked it up myself to see if there was already a term for that technique since I know it's not clear with my explanation, but I wasn't able to find anything. Basically you hold the base of his penis with one hand while forming a loose fist with the other, with lots of spit or lube in it. Fist should look like when you look at it, but loose so there's a tunnel of well-lubed space going through. Then you place that fist on top of his head and slowly move it down in one smooth motion, and as soon as the tip of his penis appears at the top hole you immediately form the same fist with the hand holding his dick and place it on top of his head so you replicate the entire movement with your other hand, all while your first hand is still moving down his shaft. Then when his head peeks out again you take that first hand off the shaft and make the fist and repeat the motion yet again. Etc etc. Basically his penis is seamlessly experiencing the downward stroke of a handjob over and over with no break in between, so it feel like it's endlessly penetrating a vagina.

I think I should put this explanation under "infinity vagina" in urban dictionary...

I think my [21F] mum saw my dildo?

I think my [21F] mum saw my dildo?

When I was back in high school I loudly requested for my boyfriend at the time to, and I quote "put it in my ass." I heard a loud gasp and that's when I realized we weren't alone in the house and my mum had returned home.

I've never been so mortified in all my life. Even thinking back to it as I type this out is making me cringe really hard haha.

My ex GFs bed was made out of wood and apparently the frame took the repeated 'beating' not so well. At one point during sex the something broke. One of the legs came off and tilted the bed. Without tools I could only bring the bed upright again, but any movement would skip the leg.

The next day we told her dad, he's a man of few words so he went on repairing the thing.

A week later when I visited her again, her mother came into the kitchen, wrapped an arm around me, looked her daughter straight in the eye and said: "Tell your lover that we repaired your bed and he should refrain from rocking it too hard."

Gave her a wink, pinched my neck and left.

One time my boyfriend and I were trying out some BDSM, and when we finally got into a position, we started having sex. We both assumed that my parents were out of the house, but apparently my mom came back early and walked in on us. Neither of us even noticed at the time in the position we were in was in, and I didn't realize she had seen us until the next morning she said "If you need some more rope, let me know" and then gave me a wink.

Yeah... and it became a recurring joke for the among the three of us for at least a year.

And that's when I learned her mom is pretty relaxed and open about such things. So I'd say that if your mom saw it and haven't joked about it, then she probably won't bring it up.

In the seven years since my rape, I have never initiated any type of sexual contact with any of my partners - except for last night! I did it, r/sex! I started the sexy times! Me! I’m so proud of how far I’ve come. Trauma ain’t got nothing on me!

In the seven years since my rape, I have never initiated any type of sexual contact with any of my partners - except for last night! I did it, r/sex! I started the sexy times! Me! I’m so proud of how far I’ve come. Trauma ain’t got nothing on me!

Yessss ☺️

That’s fucking awesome! Happy to hear you’re on the other side of the trauma. No looking back now!

Wishing you nothing but positive experiences from this point forward.

As a fellow survivor who happens to be a little further down the road... You have so many more little milestones coming your way! I’m so proud of present you, and so excited for future you!

Cheers to being able to enjoy intimacy! 🍻

Me too!

I used to be such a sexually active person but I find it near impossible to be intimate anymore. My current partner is very good at not pressuring me and even better at helping me reclaim my sexuality. I am so excited to see where I can be with some more time to heal!

My friend (f24) sent me (f25) a nude of a guy she is having sex with

My friend (f24) sent me (f25) a nude of a guy she is having sex with

Ive been wondering how other people feel about this.

My friend is having sex with some guy and apparently they send eachother nudes (which is fine ofcourse).

She then sent one of the pics showing his penis to me and made a joke about it being small.

I got really angry and told her not to share nude pictures that have been privately shared between them. She thought I was a idiot for thinking so and we didnt talk for weeks.

So what do you think and how would you react receiving that? Would you/have you shared nudes from lovers with friends or other people?

I think you’re just genuinely a good person with good morals. Don’t change.🤙🏼

If they don't have the consent of the person in the picture then it's a violation of their trust at the least.

Op, you better pay attention to this comment. You did the right thing and you will always be safe making the right decision.

Yeah for sure! I even think (where I live) that its illegal.

I feel bad for being too vanilla.

I feel bad for being too vanilla.

I do like being restrained and used but then when slapping and being choked comes in it just...does nothing for me. I feel so bad for being "too vanilla" for people. I feel like I'm a disappointment and they won't want to talk to me anymore, especially hookups.

Don't feel bad! I think most people would be just fine with that. And even if not, it's nothing to feel bad about. It's your sexuality, you should own it!

Hook up with different people who are into more “vanilla” sex?

I'm a walking kinkfest and I find it impossible to be attracted to people who are vainilla. And let me tell you, it's nothing to worry about. First and foremost, it takes all kinds to make a world, there are a lot of people who would like that. Second, for me kinky is not about what you enjoy but how much you enjoy it. I'm into seriously messed up stuff but at the end of the day and as I've said in multiple posts, nothing does it for me like giving a good old blowjob. Don't feel ashamed of your preferences, sex is something you first have to do for yourself because if you get all anxious, it's bad for everyone.

I'm really sorry when I here things like this. That use of vanilla as an insult. It's the new "prude". Sensual sex, athletic sex, enthusiastic, skilled and loving tender sex, tantric sex, all considered vanilla? I really have no advice about hookups since I've been married over ten years but we have no problem staying satisfied and hot for each other without slapping and choking.

I had a 3 way with my Ex and her new boyfriend

I had a 3 way with my Ex and her new boyfriend

You shouldn't feel guilty. They chose to take the action of a three some spontaneously without talking about the issues it could have on their relationship. Their issue not yours.

You're not guilty of anything. By the sounds of it your blowjob was just plain better than hers ;)

Your ex's boyfriend posted about this a couple weeks ago, and the general suggestion was: do it and then break up

Fuck I saw that, too. Dude said his girlfriend's ex was coming into town a few weeks, got him thinking about their relationship. I don't recall any advice about having oral sex with the ex though haha

Ever had an illegal and horrifying thing pop-up when you're browsing porn? I did today and I reported it, here's how in case you want to know.

Ever had an illegal and horrifying thing pop-up when you're browsing porn? I did today and I reported it, here's how in case you want to know.

I was browsing porn-gifs in Chrome on my phone today. As I was shutting the window I noticed a new tab open, I clicked the tab and lo and behold it was child porn. Horrifying. Sad. Sickening. I instantly closed it, but I had already seen some of the thumb-nails.

I had never had this happen before and I didn't know what to do. I wanted to report it (in addition to washing my eyes with acid and going on a "Taken" style rampage). I finally through much effort, found this website:

http://www.missingkids.org/gethelpnow/cybertipline

You can also call this number: 1-800-843-5678

I ended up calling the number and it was super easy. Gave them the url of the pop-up, what I saw and which website I was on that the pop-up originated from. They asked if I wanted to give my name or remain anonymous, I gave my name because I'd rather have it documented that I reported it than not.

Anyway. Stay safe, consensual and sexy out there /sub/sex. I hope you don't need to report anything, but if you do, here's a quick way to do it!

THIS HAPPENED TO ME ONCE it was horrifying, I closed everything immediately and stayed away from porn for a while. Thank you SO much for posting this, now I'll know what to do if it ever happens to me again.

This is really wonderful. Seriously. Thank you.

Can we get that pinned to the top here at /sub/sex???

This is VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION!!

Thank you for this public service announcement. Child porn needs to be purged from the world.

Omg...I saw a screenshot of something like that a few months ago. Dont recall where because I hadnt seen it before or since and I was nearly in tears. This is good to know.

Tip: How To Orgasm Without Ejaculating

Tip: How To Orgasm Without Ejaculating

You may have heard it is possible to orgasm without ejaculating. Also known as "The Million Dollar Spot", pressing on this area stops semen from exiting the penis while continuing to orgasm as normal.

Instructions: There is a strip of flesh between your anus and testicles. Simply press in the center with moderate force after the point of no return.

In other words, when you are about to ejaculate - push down with two fingers and some force between your anus and testicles and hold.

When done correctly, you continue "orgasming", but your fingers block the semen exiting.

It really isn't difficult. Now that I've done it countless times, I wonder why it was so hard to learn in the first place. Probably because most articles don't provide simple instructions. I don't understand why because it is so easy.

Finally, in case you're wondering... This doesn't allow you to have infinite orgasms. Your sex drive still decreases like normal (unfortunately, lol).

Hope this helps someone!

From memory, you also experience what is called a retrograde orgasm, where some of your semen goes into your bladder and then is released next time you pee.

1) but why?

2) hope no one thinks that's a valid way of contraception.

Does save on the tissues though, or makes for no mess when having to do it secretly in a youth hostel in Wales.

I wonder if that could be considered risky for your health? I'm no man, I have no clue.

Try one of these subthreads