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I think my (31) daughter (5) is being scammed at school.

I think my (31) daughter (5) is being scammed at school.

I know this is very random and that she is very little, but she has been taking coins that she finds around the house to school to give this other kindergartener girl as the girl “sells” her invisible unicorns.

So I don’t know if the other girl actually believes she is selling unicorns or not but I tried explaining to my daughter that she can’t bring money to school and she is devastated because she won’t be able to buy any more unicorns. Apparently other kids are also buying unicorns from This other girl.

I don’t know what else to do.

TL;DR: My 5 year old daughter buys invisible unicorns at school and is very sad because I’m prohibiting her from bringing money to school.

Edit: As a clarification, she doesn’t think the unicorns are imaginary. She understands the concept of imaginary but she believes this girl finds unicorns somewhere.

I [33f] want my stepdaughter [14f] to get an abortion but she and her father [42m] are against it. I don't want to raise her child.

I [33f] want my stepdaughter [14f] to get an abortion but she and her father [42m] are against it. I don't want to raise her child.

I (18F) told my best friend (18F) to stop touching me, but she started crying, and said it's what makes our friendship special. She's been avoiding me ever since.

I (18F) told my best friend (18F) to stop touching me, but she started crying, and said it's what makes our friendship special. She's been avoiding me ever since.

[Update] My [22/M] girlfriend [22/F] accidentally damaged my friend's [21/M] laptop, and he wants me to break up with her because of it, or else he's ending our friendship.

[Update] My [22/M] girlfriend [22/F] accidentally damaged my friend's [21/M] laptop, and he wants me to break up with her because of it, or else he's ending our friendship.

[UPDATE] My [21F] parents [50sF/M] took down all the trophies in the house except for my sister's [22F]

[UPDATE] My [21F] parents [50sF/M] took down all the trophies in the house except for my sister's [22F]

Here’s the original post

So, I spoke to Bebe the night I wrote my post. I pointed out that it was only her trophies on the shelf, and it wasn’t my favorite interaction. I think being away from her for so long definitely changed my perception of her, and I didn’t really notice that she had changed, especially her ego. I showed her each trophy and name plate, and she went, “Well, of course they’re my trophies. When was the last time you got better than bronze?” I asked her if it didn’t upset her that the rest of ours were basically hidden even though we’ve had a lot of dedication to our activities, and she said, “No. Dedication doesn’t make you a winner.” Bebe told me I was wasting her time, told me to “grow up and get over myself.” Then, she went to go hang out with our parents and I think I finally got it.

She was the golden child, and we were the scapegoats. The entire time I’d been there, they’d just been hanging out with Bebe and I was there too. I felt so upset, and admittedly, I self-imploded. Having my own sister that I looked up to and admired treat me like that was just a slap in the face. Our older siblings were so far in age from us that we really got close and relied on each other. Later, I got my parents separated from Bebe, and asked. They pretty much echoed her, telling me I hadn’t earned my spot on the shelf, and that my trophies had gone in the garbage because they didn’t impress anybody the way that Bebe’s did, and said that I was an adult, and I should basically just suck it up. I’ve never been more hurt by anything.

I don’t think I fully realized the scope of it when I was younger, but it clicks now. My game was on the same day as Bebe’s, and they went to hers. They brought snacks to Bebe’s competition, but not mine. Everything for Bebe was hosted at our house, but nothing for the rest of us. I pushed so much of it aside and called all of my suspicions jealousy because my relationship with my sister was more important. But it didn’t matter half as much to her. Her ego has gotten stroked for years on years, and they finally let it all come out and rear its ugly head. I was just flat out offended, especially that they through everything out as though we didn’t matter as much as Bebe. They’d thrown everything out. I was just so mad that I ended up leaving, and my parents yelled at me for “causing drama.”

I told my siblings about what had happened because I thought they had a right to know that their trophies got removed, and I did try to sound unbiased. It didn’t really work, because my whole family is in a dramatic sinkhole. My younger brother called our parents sobbing, my older sister has been playing passive aggressive and just flat out aggressive phone tag with Bebe, and my little sister was so upset she just called me bawling. I’ve been trying to do damage control, but everyone else is just mad for what’s happened. We all got a text from Bebe that basically read like “I’m sorry I’m better than you, but I deserve our parents’ love more than you” which naturally got everybody riled up again and just caused more problems. This has been basically the worst week of my life and I hate it so... Yeah. There’s my update. My family won’t speak to one another and we’re all in a big dramatic mess.

TL;DR: I figured out that my parents had thrown out all my trophies in favor of my sister’s, and now my family is melting down into a heap of drama and it’s mostly my fault.

My (19M) girlfriend (21F) of three weeks initiates sex at the most inconvenient or inappropriate times. How can I help her understand to initiate at more appropriate times?

My (19M) girlfriend (21F) of three weeks initiates sex at the most inconvenient or inappropriate times. How can I help her understand to initiate at more appropriate times?

[UPDATE] My [18M] friend/crush [24F] asked me out and I really want to date her, but our age gap makes me concerned.

[UPDATE] My [18M] friend/crush [24F] asked me out and I really want to date her, but our age gap makes me concerned.

Link to the original post: https://www.reddit.com/sub/relationships/comments/7u0x0y/my_18m_friendcrush_24f_asked_me_out_and_...

I felt like I owed an update to everyone who responded. I came to the conclusion that I’d have nothing to lose by going on one date with her.

We went to a nice restaurant. It didn't feel like there was a big maturity difference between us because I made her laugh, she made me laugh, and our chemistry was good. Some people gave us stares, but we didn't care and we even made a few jokes about it. Afterwards she kissed me, and thanked me for giving her a good time. She asked if I wanted to come over to her apartment and I said sure.

We talked about our interests for an hour and watched a few episodes of Black Mirror (the new season is great). I was getting deeply invested in the episode we were watching until she made an obvious sexual advance towards me. I felt uncomfortable because I didn't expect to have sex on a first date (OKAY maybe I should've) and the episode we watched set the mood way off for having sex.

She asked if her advance came off too strong and I told her that I wasn't comfortable having sex on a first date. Instead we made out and snuggled in bed until we fell asleep, but the next morning I kept thinking about this one reply I wrote:

I'm afraid that she wants to date me for the wrong reasons, and maybe she'll unintentionally hurt me in some way because of the age gap.

Despite having a great time and spending the last 16 hours with this gorgeous woman whom I've had a crush on for ages, I still couldn't shake that feeling out of my head. I told her everything regarding my worry about the age gap, and I even showed her the post I made. She listened to everything I said, and told me it was okay to feel this way. She told me I was acting mature for bringing up the age gap, because usually when she dated younger guys she'd have to be the one to do it. She offered to stay as friends and maybe in the future when I'm older we could revisit a relationship. I accepted her offer.

tl;dr: I went on a date with my friend, and I had a lot of fun. She invited me over to her place, and she made an obvious sexual advance towards me while we were watching a Black Mirror episode. I felt uncomfortable and declined. Instead we made out and snuggled in bed together until we fell asleep. I still had concerns about our age gap in the morning despite having a good time with her. I told her my concerns, she offered to stay as friends and maybe in the future we could revisit a relationship. I agreed. We're still good friends.

My [48M] wife [47F] is made wedding dress shopping miserable for our future DIL [24f]. She wants our DIL to stuff her bra.

My [48M] wife [47F] is made wedding dress shopping miserable for our future DIL [24f]. She wants our DIL to stuff her bra.

[UPDATE]My (24f) boyfriend (26m) of 1.5yrs just scheduled & paid for a cosmetic medical procedure for my lady regions without my knowledge or consent. What now?

[UPDATE]My (24f) boyfriend (26m) of 1.5yrs just scheduled & paid for a cosmetic medical procedure for my lady regions without my knowledge or consent. What now?

My wife [44/F] yelled at our autistic daughter [16/F] while she was experiencing sensory overload, I [45/M] don’t know how to feel

My wife [44/F] yelled at our autistic daughter [16/F] while she was experiencing sensory overload, I [45/M] don’t know how to feel

My wife and I have been married for 18 years. We had a lot of plans when we were younger- big house, big family. Instead, we had our daughter and my wife had gone through a fairly traumatic labor so Noelle is our only. Both of us have agreed we wouldn’t have it any other way. Noelle is autistic, but we’ve made sure that she has all the tools to succeed. She’s becoming more independent as time goes on, because I don’t want her to feel like she can’t achieve. She’s got resources through schools and is incredibly smart, planning on going to an out of state school once she’s graduated. At her last school, she had a good group of friends that she was comfortable with, but we moved to a new area over winter break for a variety of reasons. Noelle has a lot of trouble with sensory overload, which we can’t really control. Usually when she gets overloaded, she just curls up in a ball and we wait for her to calm down. She also hates to be touched, something that’s been difficult for our new neighbors and her peers to really understand. We get a lot of complaints from the school saying she’s had a meltdown because of boundary issues. That reaction can be more varied. Sometimes, it’s just a quick shaking them off. If she’s already having a rough day, it can be a full on meltdown. It’s a bit of a learning curve. The move has also put some stress on her, but Noelle is handling it like a champ, and I’m really happy.

We moved to a more affluent neighborhood, and my wife has been desperate to impress. Last night, she invited some of the neighbors over for a dinner party, and we sort of expressed the expectations for what would happen to Noelle, since she likes to be prepared before doing new things. Noelle did really well at the start, but things started getting loud and food was coming out, and it was a little too much. She’d also been complaining of a stomachache earlier in the day, so it probably contributed to the stress. Noelle started wandering into the kitchen, and my wife followed her. I hadn’t been paying attention, this has all been relayed to me by my daughter, backed up by my wife (with different phrasing.) Noelle was starting to really shut down because the kitchen was louder, so she went into her ball, and my wife started shouting for her to get up, which Noelle didn’t do. My wife grabbed Noelle, and she started to scream because she doesn’t like being touched when she’s melting down. My wife was trying to pull Noelle up, and Noelle was screaming and kicking. My wife started screaming at Noelle, and by that point, everyone could hear it. I came into the kitchen, got my wife off Noelle, and she went back out like nothing had happened. It took Noelle about 5 hours to calm down and get off the floor. I just sat with her because it was important for me to just to watch her, especially being in the kitchen with unfamiliar caterers. Everything settled down, I got Noelle to bed, and started talking to my wife.

My wife said Noelle had ruined everything, including her life, and that she was the reason we’d never had anymore kids. I didn’t want to argue, just said that she needed to respect Noelle’s boundaries. She said that she didn’t need to, Noelle needed to start acting more “normal”, otherwise she didn’t get to go to college. My wife said she never gets to feel proud of our daughter because everything she does is always “undercut by weirdness.” I pointed out that she’s autistic, not weird, and my wife started talking about kids that you can’t even tell they’re autistic. At that point, I figured she was just tired and stressed, so I said we should both go to bed. Noelle woke up early feeling sick, and I stayed home with her. My wife and I haven’t spoken, even though we usually talk before she goes into work. When I said Noelle wasn’t feeling well, my wife just turned over in bed. I feel like something snapped, and I don’t know where I’m at. How should I talk to her about this? Is she justified? I mean, where do I go from here?

TL;DR: My wife screamed at our autistic daughter while she was having a shutdown.

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