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Girlfriend and I may have been caught having sex in her car

Girlfriend and I may have been caught having sex in her car

I don't know if it was a police officer as they weren't really dressed like one but they shined a flashlight through the windows. We made eye contact so I know he saw me, but nothing happened after that. I don't know if he got our car plate down but we just drove away. How screwed are we?

edit : This was in Arizona

How screwed are we?

Must...not...answer...childishly.

Seriously, though, you don't need to do anything. If the police happen to contact you or your girlfriend, don't answer a single question without an attorney present.

Don't worry too much.

If it was a cop you would have got a talking to. If it was private security he probably just wanted to make sure you weren't up to something worse than a little touchy-feely like shooting up.

Keep your intimate endeavors indoors from now on. Hanky-panky in public is a quick way to end up on a sex offender registry.

If police action was going to occur, it would have happened at that time.

If it was the police I think they would’ve knocked on the window and talk to you

Not necessarily. Some cops would prefer to do the "hey I see you flashlight shine" and give the indecent actors a chance to go away.

[PA] Mother passed away. Her name was on my checking account. Do I have to pay inheritance tax on the balance of my money on the day that she died?

[PA] Mother passed away. Her name was on my checking account. Do I have to pay inheritance tax on the balance of my money on the day that she died?

I've possessed my checking account for 25 years, both of my parent's names were on the account, but my name was first.

There were checks that were written against the balance, are they deducted from the balance? Is the inheritance tax on the whole balance or only half of the balance?

The only deposit submitted into my account on her behalf was for an IRS refund that wouldn't be processed by the trust account. That balance was subsequently transferred from my account into the trust account.

From the PA Dep't of revenue:

https://revenue-pa.custhelp.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/156/~/are-joint-savings-account-subject-t...

I'm not worried about estate taxes. This particular issue is only involving the inheritance taxes.

Unless those have something to do with this issue?

Is the estate worth less than $5.49 million ? If so, than you don't need to worry about estate taxes.

If the estate is worth more than that, I would say hire an attorney and don't get your advice on Reddit. You can afford it.

EDIT: serious aplogies here. This seems to only be applicable to Federal taxes. PA does tax inheritance and it looks like they will tax 1/2 of the account at a rate of 4.5%

But note that elsewhere the department says that jointly named assets are only presumably half taxable.

CA- My daughter's teacher has made racial and sexual comments, what can I do?

CA- My daughter's teacher has made racial and sexual comments, what can I do?

My daughter has informed me that her teacher (middle school) has been making weird comments. He has a picture of his wife and brags about how "sexy" and "hot" she is. He includes her race in the compliments. He also said there are "such pretty (race) girls" in the class. She felt weird because he singled out the attractive girls based on race...I am uncomfortable and tried to have her removed from his class for other reasons (the homework load is unbearable and I am a single mom who can't help with that much homework). The principal said my daughter cannot leave the class. What can I do here? This guy is probably out of line, maybe grooming these girls?

I would probably start with a complaint to the principle and talking to the other parents so see if their children are reporting the same behavior. Making borderline racist and sexist comments does not mean that this teacher is breaking the law in more serious ways, but he should be reprimanded and told to stop with the personal comments for sure.

In addition to the other advice, I strongly suggest you write down the dates/times/details of these comments and make sure you have a written record. Documentation is so important.

Did you ask the principal to remove your daughter before or after these comments? Did you tell the principal about what the teacher said? I would give your concerns to the principal in written format (email is great) with specific details and ask for a response back in writing. If the principal insists on a phone call or in-person meeting, ask for permission to record it. Then, if nothing gets done, you can take your concerns to the school board.

NAL, but a special education teacher who knows the value of documentation.

That's deeply inappropriate and should be looked into. It isn't itself outright illegal.

Principal, then district office for the school is your recourse here.

Teacher here. Report the comments to the principal immediately. If you aren't satisfied with his/her response, then escalate to the school board and/or superintendent. Don't dick around. At a minimum, this guy is making learning very difficult for these girls if what you say is true. At worst, he is grooming them. Guys like this make us all look bad, and it is sad. Anyway, I hope the best for your daughter and the other girls. They shouldn't be subject to that.

Also: I am a union leader at my school. They have a duty to defend him if he is accused of wrongdoing, but only within the confines of the contract. In other words, when someone fucks up and gets in trouble at work, I only have to make sure the principal isn't violating contract when disciplining them. It isn't my job to defend them or "get them off." So if this guy really said all this shit, then all they need is corroboration from other students. They will investigate and interview.

Good luck.

(IL) Mom is getting remarried and says we have no choice but to take her husband's last name and get adopted by him. Do we have a right to say no?

(IL) Mom is getting remarried and says we have no choice but to take her husband's last name and get adopted by him. Do we have a right to say no?

I'm 15 and my brother is 11. We have our father's last name. Our father has passed away. Mom is getting remarried soon and says we're gonna take her new husband's last name and he'll adopt us.

Do we have a right to decline?

She says nobody will even aks for our opinion about the name, she will file papers and it will be done. Is it true? What can we do to stop it?

At the very least, you can change it to your real father's name when you turn 18.

The judge who oversaw my step parent adoption had a brief conversation with me and my sister as part of the proceedings.

Hopefully you get a chance to speak with the judge - it might be worthwhile for you to see if you could get a free consult with a local family lawyer, to find out if there is a specific avenue you can use to be sure your voice is heard.

Good luck.

They want both. I'd rather have a name than having him control our lives and be our legal 'dad'. I don't want him to be our parent and sign any documents for us. It just sucks. My mom made it her life's mission to get our dad out of our lives every way she could ever since they divorced. Now that he's died she wants to take his name away from us too.

He should be able to adopt you (so he can sign documents as your parent etc) without changing the last name. But that may make it more difficult. Try to offer that as a compromise to mom.

I got a speeding ticket in 2016 that I haven't paid, how long is it normally before an arrest warrant is issued

I got a speeding ticket in 2016 that I haven't paid, how long is it normally before an arrest warrant is issued

Alameda County, I was pulled over for speeding (I know it doesn't matter, but I wasn't my Speedometer said I was going 5 under the limit when he turned the siren on.) He also tagged me for not having insurance, because even though I showed him my paperwork with my numbers and stuff on it, It was the insurance card, so wasn't proof. I got a courtesy notice in the mail, signed off Not Guilty, and never got a notice for a court date. Now I didn't hear from them and heard that these things get thrown out if the cop doesn't show up. Anyways, I check online today to make sure, and I have to pay like $1,800 to Alameda. I don't even know how to begin to fix this, and I don't have the money for a lawyer. I ended up moving out of the county. Really I want to know the timeline on this, and if they're going to come to my new address and drag me off in cuffs or what? Like no legal advice, just SOP for this kind of thing, and maybe a good recommendation for a free consultation?

Usually you get a notice from the DMV. Assuming of course you always keep your address current on your CDL. Otherwise I think you can go in and check.

Alameda county usually does not issue arrest warrants for FTA on infractions. They suspend your license so every time you are caught driving you can be charged with a misdemeanor and have your car impounded for 30 days.

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Alameda County, I was pulled over for speeding (I know it doesn't matter, but I wasn't my Speedometer said I was going 5 under the limit when he turned the siren on.) He also tagged me for not having insurance, because even though I showed him my paperwork with my numbers and stuff on it, It was the insurance card, so wasn't proof. I got a courtesy notice in the mail, signed off Not Guilty, and never got a notice for a court date. Now I didn't hear from them and heard that these things get thrown out if the cop doesn't show up. Anyways, I check online today to make sure, and I have to pay like $1,800 to Alameda. I don't even know how to begin to fix this, and I don't have the money for a lawyer. I ended up moving out of the county. Really I want to know the timeline on this, and if they're going to come to my new address and drag me off in cuffs or what? Like no legal advice, just SOP for this kind of thing, and maybe a good recommendation for a free consultation?

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Well we can’t (according to the subreddit rules) advertise any law firms specifically, but most lawyers offer free-or-low-cost consultations, where they can look at the case and advise you on your best options. Just take a look on the internet for law offices in your area, and you’ll likely find quite a few.

This would likely be your best course of action in this case, as they will be able to advise you much better than we will, having more access to the specifics of your situation.

I got summoned for injuring my neighbor's kid who hurt herself on my property [UPDATE]

I got summoned for injuring my neighbor's kid who hurt herself on my property [UPDATE]

[USA-CALIFORNIA] This is an updated post to the original: https://www.reddit.com/sub/legaladvice/comments/6weds8/i_got_summoned_for_injuring_my_neighbors_k...

So long story short... my neighbor sued me for $10,000 in damages. I also countersued and wanted my neighbor to reimburse me for any court paperwork that I had to do, the fountain he broke, and the time I wasted.

The judge concluded that I was not responsible for injuring my neighbor's kid and that the fountain was properly secured to the best of my ability. I also showed him the video of the kid playing on top of the fountain before it fell. Judge told the parents that ultimately it was their responsibility to look after their kid especially when the video showed over 3 minutes of the kid playing on top of the fountain before the collapse. They knew their kids were playing on the fountain and they did not tell them to stop.

Judge rewarded my request for the damages to my fountain. Now my neighbors are hating on me. Just weeks ago, my house was egged on Halloween, away from the view of the camera and I was the only house that was egged! Very suspicious that I would be the one house that was egged and know the position of the camera unless I have shown it to them... like in court. Are there anyways to protect myself?

Luckily, you also know where the cameras are and where the blindspots are. Have you considered getting another camera and pointing it at the blindspot of the original camera they know about?

To add to the blindspot suggestion (personally, I'd make sure the new camera is hidden so they don't know it's there), I'll add this: if you have pets, keep them inside. There are way too many stories of pets poisoned by hateful neighbors on this sub. Sure, if it's recorded on camera you might get them arrested, but that won't help your dog / cat.

Further I would not interact with them or the kid at all. Make damn sure everything on your property is reasonably secured to the best of your ability (replacement fountain, whatever).

And keep the footage from the cameras. Consider arranging for automatic backup to the cloud. If I were a very sneaky asshole neighbor and I knew my neighbor had cameras, I might do something, wait long enough for the footage to likely have been written over on the HD, and then bring it up with the cops.

And then ANOTHER camera, this time at the camera's camera's blindspot!

You can install another camera in the blindspots you know. Also Congratulations.

Please don't upvote - Should I bother persecuting my car service company for cleaning bills after sex?

Please don't upvote - Should I bother persecuting my car service company for cleaning bills after sex?

Yes, you absolutely should. That is nasty.

Get an estimate and demand compensation. If they balk, sue in small claims.

This may be covered under your insurance depending on your policy, you could pursue that avenue as well.

Honestly I️ think there’s a very good chance that the owner or manager will fire the person involved and immediately agree to pay to have it cleaned.

Hell yeah, that is unprofessional and pretty fucking gross. Go back there, bring a friend if you must. Ask for the manager and explain what happened. Let him know you want a professional cleaning done. You don't have to get loud or argue or whatever. Most people are pretty decent and will try to make it right. Don't even mention the word lawsuit unless they start to fight you on it. Then you can do that by mail, usually, and small claims doesn't require a lawyer.

A good detail will cost a few hundred bucks.

You aren't OBLIGATED to speak, but you absolutely should.

Send the company an email detailing what you found and asking them to pay for the cleaning.

Here's an easy template you can modify as needed.

"Dear X Service company, On the date of XX/XX/2017 I dropped my vehicle at your service location for my 30KM service. I received my vehicle back on the date of XX/XX/2017. Upon review of my dash cam footage, it came to my attention that, while in your care, two people were allowed access to my vehicle and proceeded to have sex in the back seat.

As a result, I had my vehicle professionally cleaned, incurring a cost of $XXX.

Please reimburse me for this amount, as it is a direct result of negligence in the care of my vehicle. It is a gross violation of trust and professional conduct, and I expect to be made whole. I offer you this chance to comply voluntarily, but will follow up with a small claims suit if necessary.

I can provide the footage if necessary.

Thank you, X X"

You're absolutely within your rights to write a review detailing what happened, though I would wait to do so until after being reimbursed.

Edit: Include identifying information like license plate/model #, and a copy of your receipt/invoice for the cleaning too.

I just witnessed a disturbing Facebook post and wondering if I should call their local police

I just witnessed a disturbing Facebook post and wondering if I should call their local police

There was a post made on a public page. This guy left a comment. It was me and a few other people who gave him criticism, And it was harsh criticism.

He eventually resorted to posting images of his slashed wrists (not freshly slashed, but healing... So he didn't just do it and then take the photo) as a way of saying we are all wrong, and that we don't know what we are talking about, this is how much this subject has affected him, etc.

We were trying to reason with him but it's clear that we cannot.

I don't know if this is considered a threat, but this guy is demonstrating a certain pathology that's not sitting well with me at all.

I reported it to Facebook, but I have debated whether I should go further and call the cops, or contact his family. I don't know if this is considered stalking or cyber bullying, but on a moral level I cannot sit there and do nothing

How should I move forward? Or did I already do what I should do?

He lives in another state, Maine

Try reverse google searching the image.

Not trying to make you upset or belittle the situation, but people have lied about a lot worse on Facebook. I'd make sure he isn't blatantly just making up things to upset you before calling the police.

You are welcome to contact the friends/family via Facebook. If you know his address, you are welcome to contact the police to conduct a welfare check.

I don't know his address. I only know the county where he lives.

I even reported it to a hotline.

The content of what he was posting was very "Elliott Rogers" to me. I just felt like it was more than just an internet troll, and more like a potentially dangerous situation.

The police may or may not take action without an address, but feel free to contact them in the county where he lives.

Friend has found children's hair, clothes and a hard drive in a house that doesn't have children.

Friend has found children's hair, clothes and a hard drive in a house that doesn't have children.[TX] (I need new, normal friends).

My friend is taking care of her MIL's house after she passed. Basically the MIL had one son (my friend's husband) and no daughters or other female relatives. She had a boyfriend who she was trying to get rid of, but he wouldn't leave her brand new house and was basically squatting there. She died before she had even unpacked her belongings and the boyfriend stayed there until my friend had him legally removed (at which point he stole the MIL's car and they never got it back). My friend has been cleaning up the house, selling all the belongings, but the boyfriend's belongings are also there. She has found girl's ponytails, clearly cut from someone's head, as well as a duffel bag with girl's clothes in it. She called the boyfriend's ex (mother of his son) to ask if there are any girls in the family. None.  There are also hard drives but they're blank, and we think they're probably encrypted. He has been desperate to get back into the house to get his bags and has tried to use the car as a bargaining tool to be able to get back into the house, saying he'll give it back once he has been allowed in the house. My friend thinks it's weird that he's not asked the police to help him to retrieve his things, since he seems so desperate to get his bags back.

Police refuse to do anything about the car or what my friend found in the house. It's a small town police department and they're notorious for their unhelpful attitudes, and every crime is a "civil matter" to them.

Does anyone have any resources/who does she need to contact that will actually take this seriously? I mean, it's very obviously human children's hair (it has bows in it etc.) and it being in a bag full of hard drives and girl's clothing seems very strange. Here is a photo of some of the hair, just for reference.
Friend has found children's hair, clothes and a hard drive in a house that doesn't have children.

[TX] (I need new, normal friends).

My friend is taking care of her MIL's house after she passed. Basically the MIL had one son (my friend's husband) and no daughters or other female relatives. She had a boyfriend who she was trying to get rid of, but he wouldn't leave her brand new house and was basically squatting there. She died before she had even unpacked her belongings and the boyfriend stayed there until my friend had him legally removed (at which point he stole the MIL's car and they never got it back). My friend has been cleaning up the house, selling all the belongings, but the boyfriend's belongings are also there. She has found girl's ponytails, clearly cut from someone's head, as well as a duffel bag with girl's clothes in it. She called the boyfriend's ex (mother of his son) to ask if there are any girls in the family. None. There are also hard drives but they're blank, and we think they're probably encrypted. He has been desperate to get back into the house to get his bags and has tried to use the car as a bargaining tool to be able to get back into the house, saying he'll give it back once he has been allowed in the house. My friend thinks it's weird that he's not asked the police to help him to retrieve his things, since he seems so desperate to get his bags back.

Police refuse to do anything about the car or what my friend found in the house. It's a small town police department and they're notorious for their unhelpful attitudes, and every crime is a "civil matter" to them.

Does anyone have any resources/who does she need to contact that will actually take this seriously? I mean, it's very obviously human children's hair (it has bows in it etc.) and it being in a bag full of hard drives and girl's clothing seems very strange. .

(I need new, normal friends)

....I agree.

Does anyone have any resources/who does she need to contact that will actually take this seriously? I mean, it's very obviously human children's hair (it has bows in it etc.) and it being in a bag full of hard drives and girl's clothing seems very strange.

Call the cops. CALL ALL THE COPS. Local. State troopers. FBI.

DO NOT TOUCH ANYTHING OR TRY TO DO ANYTHING TO THE HARD DRIVES.

Escalate to higher levels of cops / law enforcement.

Look up a crimes against children division of the STATE law enforcement. Call them.

Look up a child trafficking prevention organization. Call them also.

Look up a cyber crimes and child pornography division of the State or Federal government. Call them also.

Call the FBI, perhaps. YMMV. https://tips.fbi.gov/ and https://www.fbi.gov/contact-us

In other words, fuck the locals. Escalate to STATE or even Fed level cyber crimes, child trafficking prevention, and crimes against children divisions.

She called the cops and asked them to take everything, but they refused and told her it all likely belonged to a relative that had stayed there. She said there were no young, female relatives of either the MIL or boyfriend, but they just said it must be someone they knew and wasn't suspicious, and that was that.

I'd skip the locals and jump right to seeing if the county/state police or the Feds are interested at this point. That's some skeevy stuff, and the local police aren't going to even know how to investigate it properly.

Apparently, I'm running an art cartel.

Apparently, I'm running an art cartel.

This is ridiculous, my lawyer is out of town until the weekend. Until I see him, is there anything specific I should worry about with this whole craziness?

Small tourist town, Pennsylvania. I run a gift shop that has a small gallery space for local artists work. Two friends own art galleries within three blocks. We work together to run promotions similar to "first Friday" in larger cities. We also split advertising in flyers showing each of our current showing. Mostly though, we will recommend the other galleries as each of us has a different proffered art type.

A guy moved into the area who owned a high end gallery in a city, who Ill call John. Opens a small gallery in town as his retirement job. We reached out to him to try to include him in the local arts community, but he turned us down rudely. John has been doing poorly. From my perspective it's because most of the work he shows is priced out of the local market and he tends to act rudely to customers.

He has become antagonistic towards us. John has started posted ads that attack us for not having "real art", etc. He has been quite vocal about badmouthing us to anyone who comes in his gallery. So far, we have just let him bury himself in bad business practices and haven't responded in any way.

However, things came to a head this weekend, The other galleries and I held a promotion in conjunction with Halloween festivities and parade on Friday. He was seen pulling down our flyers around town last week. Most local shops stayed open late that night and had sales or promotions, but John's gallery was noticeably closed the entire day Friday and Saturday. In the morning Sunday John posted on his personal Facebook saying the other local galleries trashed his shop front. Later in the day a local police officer came by to ask me about it. I know the police officer and he basically said the pictures he was shown were candy wrappers and litter by the door, similar to what was left all along the parade route. The officer said he had no reason to think we were involved or that it was malicious, but he wanted to follow up and settle the issue.

I was told the next day John posted and then deleted numerous complaints on Facebook against other local businesses, but especially me and the other three galleries. He has even given us a nickname, which sounds like an old west group (think "The Three Banditos"). I can't see John's posts but was sent two screenshots and told there was worse. On Monday, two of my friends galleries had printed flyers taped to their doors overnight, blasting them for selling cheap art and for pushing new galleries out of the community. I'm told there were also angry posts on Facebook saying that an artist who had decided to pull from his gallery, which he blamed on us. None of us know this artist, nor had any contact.

Which brings us to this morning. I get a call saying that John was at a local coffee shop trying to get people to give him money to mount a lawsuit against us. He apparently had a document he typed up with his grievances. He is claiming that I specifically am running an art cartel! (Hence the post title). That two of the other shops have flooded the market with low end art to destroy his business. John was hassling patrons for money so much he was asked to leave before cops were called.

I think Johns business is doing poorly and he is going a little crazy. I think the worst he could do is drag us into a pricey lawsuit that goes no where, but I want to make sure there's no other trouble he could make for us. Is this dire enough to bring in a lawyer before I speak to mine on Tuesday?

Slight update: One of the gallery owners who had something taped to their food Monday met with their lawyer today. He let me know his lawyer is writing a cease and desist. His lawyer passed along similar recommendations to here: collect any evidence, get a security camera, and see if this blows over. I'm still meeting w my lawyer Tuesday, and have people friended to John in Facebook watching for any new posts. I'm probably going to just see if my lawyer will also do a cease and desist, but otherwise I'm just going to stay back and watch.

Oh lord small art co-op drama.

Yeah John's a nutter. He's going to continue being a nutter. He's already gotten himself kicked out of one coffee shop and the local police probably have them on their 'oh shit THIS fucking guy' list by now.

No lawyer is going to take a case when his (false) complaint is that...you're competitive? Lowering prices isn't illegal even if you had.

That leaves him filing pro se. Which is gonna be a...thing...if he does.

Give your lawyer a heads up. Maybe have him draft a polite "fuck off and die" letter if he's continuing to harass you.

And yeah, as /u/pottersquash said. Taco truck. I fucking LOVE art and tacos.

This is critical. If you don't act fast you will surely regret.

Somehow you need to spin this into festival. Shit with Black Friday coming you may be able to make your entire year. You may need a foodtruck. I'm thinking tacos with the whole Banditos

Seriously though, naw don't do anything. You may want to document everything going on so you remember later. You are doing nothing wrong but if there is a way to spin his stupidity into business do it.

Seriously, not a bad time for a 15% off sale cause you'll be getting more eyeballs thanks to this loon. The thing about cheap art is its art, and its cheap.

That's the sort of thing he hates too! Over the summer, we do art and wine walks that go from one place to another with a local winery having a tasting of different wines at each spot. We usually have food catered as well, and he blew a fit because the gallery closest to him had cupcakesrom a local bakery. Some of the walkers hit up his gallery thinking it was on the tour and instead got him ranting that the other gallery was holding a children's birthday party.

I can only imagine the response to a taco truck.

It'd be polite to give your lawyer a heads-up that there's an angry old man who's blaming you for everything he's done wrong, but yeah I think the worst he can do legally is some kind of slapp-type suit. Courts don't like those.

So far, we have just let him bury himself in bad business practices and haven't responded in any way.

Definitely keep doing this. Your customers and the locals aren't stupid, no doubt they've made up their own minds about this other guy without your help. His behaviour kinda speaks for itself.

Try one of these subthreads