My girlfriend and I just broke up and I decided to take a gap year half way through a uni semester to sort out my health and emotional state. This quote could not have been more relivant.
From u/HorriBliss -
This is not a F. Scott Fitzgerald quotation, it has been falsely attributed to him for years since the release of the film adaptation of: "A Curious Case of Benjamin Button".
The original quotation does not appear in F. Scott Fitzgerald's short-story, but rather, when Eric Roth was adapting the script, he created the quotation.
Plus, I find the full quotation a lot more powerful:
For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.
Here's it said in the film:
Here's a short article about it: http://www.falmouthpubliclibrary.org/?/blog/entries/the-curious-case-of-misquotation/
*relevant. Maybe you should cut that gap year short and hurry back to uni.
I feel everyone would be a straight-A student if they didn't have 50+ social problems to deal with every week.
In college, I just ignored everybody and became a straight-A student. Sadly I have almost no friends from college now and missed out on crucial life experiences there. It really is hard to have it all and juggle everything.
I fuckin' love hedgehogs!
This was Taylor Nicole Dean's hedgehog. Search up her YouTube channel
Well, everyone knows badgers don't give a fuck. First rate critters!
"Don't believe in yourself! Believe in me! Believe in the hedgehog who believes in you!" -hedgehog.
Be Gandalf and convince short people to go on adventures
Just a bearded guy with a gang of midgets - yeah, I can see that not turning into porn.
But if I show up at my own door, who in the hell's going to answer it?
"Yer a Jedi, Katniss."
Supposedly this was around the time when his wife had been diagnosed with cancer.
To put this in perspective, he was going through a lot in his life at this moment. His wife was suffering from cancer and would die just 2 years after this aired. He was then diagnosed with lymphoma and would also pass away at only age 52. He never told anyone but his closest friends and family that he was sick and continued doing the show while still doing his best to stay focused on the good stuff.
His simply reads "Bob Ross - Television Artist"
Do you think this was around when he was diagnosed with lymphoma? "I'm waiting on the good times now"
This makes me both happy and sad.
What a way to start a Monday
As a recovering perfectionist, this is such a great reminder.
A good enough union!
I had a boss that said, "if you aren't making mistakes, you aren't doing anything at all."
With you on that one.
Recovering perfectionist unite.
[Discussion] Is there anyone else out there who have no direction in life, nothing they truly want to get done? Is there a solution for this?
I think humans actually just enjoy being good at stuff. I didn't feel a ton of motivation to do any of my hobbies at first. Just a small flame of interest. The real drive comes after you start gaining a little momentum and see what you could be capable of if you keep at it. Just start trying random shit.
Yeah. Increase your dopamine.
The dopamine levels are what causes you to have drive.
You get it from sex, dark chocolate, exercise, and (don't try this) cocaine.
Go work out hard and then have some dark chocolate and see if you don't have more motivation.
You also get dopamine from meditation, completing goals however small, having optimistic thoughts, and through activating your vagus nerve (via deep breathing, gargling, loud singing, cold showers, and more).
What if you have no interest in anything? I feel like you can't really force a genuine interest, no matter how little. I have the problem where I have never been really interested in anything. It's not just laziness either, because I - really- want to, and need to, have interests. And I've tried out different things, but I always end up not seeing the point. It feels meaningless and doesn't give me any satisfaction. I wonder why I am like this.
[STORY] I have a 145 IQ, and I had the chance to tell my way more successful friend why it doesn't matter at all.
As of right now, I'm a failure.
I lived a spoiled childhood. My parents spent money on me that they didn't have. I was taught to dream, to believe that anything was possible. My teachers would send home glowing letters to family about how I was "going to change the world".
I got accepted into pretty great colleges, but because of immigration and financial reasons, I couldn't afford to go to any, so I went to community college (which was unexpectedly awesome) and then to a lousy four year school (which was expectedly terrible). I graduated with a degree in Finance.
I found no jobs in Finance. Spoiled and entitled, I rushed into a career in retail management and failed horribly at the first three jobs I worked. I would hop between jobs when I saw how bad I was at them, even though my hiring managers had sky-high expectations for me. I blamed the companies' archaic policies and never myself.
My life changed when I applied to work as a financial analyst for a small, family-owned wealth management company. I was still a spoiled and entitled piece of crap. This was an extremely selective role. I needed to take 4 hours of intelligence testing and give a 10-minute presentation so they could see how I would conduct myself in front of clients.
I glided through the interview and was offered an awesome salary - mind you, I had no financial experience at all. We had a testing debrief after the offer meeting. My bosses were glowing.
"Your IQ is the highest we've seen here since, well, ourselves, and you only fell short by a few points." They were in the 150s, and I was a 145. My ego skyrocketed. On some scales, I was a genius. (A low level genius - I think the original MENSA scale puts it at 160.)
I was a shoo-in. Smart, smart, smart!
Six months later, I was at a point where one of my bosses would yell at me so routinely throughout the day that I would tear up on the drives home. I couldn't stop myself from making small errors on reports that high-level clients (worth millions - these people knew detail) would see. I was failing, and on the chopping block. I quit, and took a job selling life insurance, convinced that my boss was just a jerk that could never be satisfied. (He was, but the problem was me.)
I got off to a hot start with life insurance and made some okay money in the first month. As usual, everyone was impressed with me the moment I walked through the door. Two months later, I was fizzing out. I wasn't making any money, my girlfriend was paying all of our bills, and I was using credit cards recklessly. I was on the verge of losing absolutely everything.
Some genius. I was a career failure at 25 already. Five different jobs since May 2013 and I sucked at every single one of them to the point where I knew I had to leave before I got fired.
I finally realized I was the problem. My entitled attitude, arrogant way of thinking and speaking, and total lack of self-awareness buried me. I denied all of it until I was such a loser I could hardly look in the mirror. I was depressed, emasculated, and angry at no one but me.
Then I started from the ground up. For three months, I did a temporary accounts receivable job for a labor union. It paid terribly, but I knew I needed to start small and to control others' expectations of me. When that assignment ended, I was hired as an accounts payable clerk for a new company. I've been there for three months now, and I'm working to master the little things that make people successful.
My friend - we'll call him F - is the total opposite. He's brilliant, but I'm pretty sure his IQ is average. He went to college, worked hard from the bottom of his career, and at 25 is a financial manager working directly under a CFO for a pharmaceutical company making $120,000 a year. His humility, relentless work ethic, and loyalty have brought him this far.
He texted and asked me, "Hey man, remember when you took that IQ test a few years ago? What did you get? I'm thinking of taking one."
I told him, "Why? Look at your life. You built yourself from the ground up. You paid off thousands of dollars in student loans in less than two years, you're in top physical condition, and you're at a career level that most people can only dream of before you're even 30. You don't need an IQ test. Your results prove how smart you are."
I then told him my story - we hadn't talked regularly in years, and I kept it a secret from as many people as I could. It was so cathartic that I cried when I got home.
For all of you who aren't privileged, or have disadvantages, take it from me and from modern psychology: Grit, not ability, is the ultimate determining factor in how far you go. It's about being self-aware, humble, and fighting through the tough times.
I'm 26 and the next few years of my life are going to be me just cleaning up the mess I've made since I left college, but I'm so thankful I learned the hard way so fast.
**TL;DR: Used to think big IQ was indicative of great success coming up, fell flat on my face in career, was humbled by friend's hard work and commitment and got to tell him that IQ doesn't mean anything and that his results meant infinitely more.
Also learned people on GetMotivated aren't nearly as positive as you would think.**
Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard.
A great book about this is Grit, by Angela Duckworth. In-depth subjective study about success.
It's like you almost understand. You're so close, yet so far.
The entire point of your post is supposedly that IQ doesn't matter, yet you still identify with your high IQ, and even call your friend "average IQ" like it's a disadvantage. But remember the whole point you're trying to make? IQ doesn't matter. It doesn't mean anything. So forget about it.
It's not really useful for anything besides identifying pricks, and your Prick Quotient is off the goddamn charts.
Yeah, I went the same way. Was told I was smart and special all while growing up. All it did was give me a shit attitude and game me the rationale for slacking off and not doing homework but acing tests to be a solid C+ student.
Got to college and I didn't have that "You're smart and special" feedback loop, and I actually had to work hard to succeed. But I found it easier to give up on my dreams and take an easier major instead. That's what I did, graduated with a degree in Hotel and Restaurant Management.
Let me tell you I was really surprised when I started my job as a cook and found out that a real job is HARD WORK. I probably worked harder and felt more stress in that first month of that job than I did in all of high school and college. That one realization-that in order to succeed, I had to apply myself, work hard, and give a damn about the results of my work-was one of the most valuable lessons in my life.
Thanks for sharing. Glad to hear you realized this and you're now on track.
Thank god he had that plan. Otherwise the lightning would have struck his arm instead and killed him.
Just because life fucks with your plan, it's no reason to not have a plan. Things evolve and your options do as well.
Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.
Brain gotta poop
I'll try spinning, that's a good trick
Just make sure your mandrel is not worn out because that will also cause your cutting disk to break and you don't want a cutting disk flying at you at 25,000 rpm. So another observation would be, when you fail at your strongest and most powerful, the consequence can be more disastrous than when you fail at your weakest. Or the bigger you are the harder you fall. So measure out your power and take it easy. Crank up that rpm slowly and if you see your tool wobbling, realize that something is wrong and you need to turn it off and check your seat because maybe it has eroded.
this dude failed the meme making exam. was he copying another question paper?
False. Copying can get you filthy rich and successful.
There's a saying that goes "nothing is created, everything is copied" (from Lavosier's famous "nothing is created, everything is transformed"). Inspiration is key in life, there's nothing wrong with trying to mirror others in your own way :)