No surprise there. If only the pearl clutchers realized that "don't ever have sex" is the worst advice to give
So you're telling me that people with access to family planning have less unwanted pregnancies? Who could have known??
Who could have foreseen this totally foreseeable event? #thoughtsandprayers
Planned Parenthood is a non-profit organization that offers sexual health services to women and girls as well as distributes sex education information. They do things like pre and post natal care for new and expectant mothers, prescribe contraceptives, clinical breast and cervical exams, pregnancy tests and options counseling, STD screenings, LGBT counseling, vasectomies for men, and of course they offer abortion services, which is why republicans hate them so much.
Awesome! you can crosspost to /sub/bigboobproblems
Ha can relate to many of these. She's funny. You should crosspost to /sub/abrathatfits. They will probably get a kick out of it too.
Ugh, I can totally relate when it comes to these issues. Having big boobs is a lot like being left handed, things just aren't built for you and you are forced to adapt or deal with the inconveniences. Unfortunately, I'm both.
Always love seeing new Aussie talent putting out content.
... I may have punched a guy in the dick
The story goes like this: I was walking home from work, taking the route I normally take, seeing familiar faces and all that. This guy I walk past- I think he was drunk, but he grabbed my tits and squeezed them. Randomly. I didn't know him, certainly not like this, but even so what the fuck? Anyway I don't know what happened, I never do this- then again I've never really been groped so abraisively by someone in public on my way home - I punched him in the dick. Not just once either. I just swung at it like the ploy was for him not to have kids or something. I wasn't playing around I just kept aiming for it.
He actually started yelling at me and took off running the other direction. I just didn't know what to say... I guess I punched his dick. I didn't even say anything. I feel like I had this bewildered look on my face and I just went to town on his dick. The phrasing could be better.
Edit: I was having a really weird day after that, I don't know why but it shocked me a little bit. Thank you for the replies! You all were really funny, helpful, and just nice about it.
Glad you weren't harmed beyond his initial touching, and hopefully that creep learns a good lesson. More people who behave like that deserve the response you gave.
That's self defense and it's your right
You are awesome!
I wasn't even thinking about what he would do if I reacted. It's like this moment where my mind shut off and I just did it. I don't want to say it was the instinct to punch him there, that's just odd instinct, but I guess it kind of was...
Can I ask why they said "10 year old women"? Is that a cultural thing? 10 seems a bit young for the term woman.
When will boys be permitted to wear the superior skirt?
Well, no. What has changed is the policy at a state level. Previously it has been up to each school to define the uniform policy. This now requires all public schools to offer the choice.
I went to school in Western Australia and this article is garbage. Women were were allowed to wear shorts at my school and at all the schools we interacted with, some 20 odd other schools.
This was more than 20 years ago.
I finally reported my manager.
Backstory, my manager is a PhD holder and is very intelligent but lacks experience both for her job and for management. I'm the first person she's hired who is newer, more junior than and directly managed by her. Earlier in the year she was reported by multiple colleagues who overheard her being inappropriately rude and interrogative to me in a public setting. Her own line manager staged an intervention and took me aside to reassure me that I had done nothing wrong. He wanted to ensure I still felt comfortable and supported at work and wasn't thinking of quitting, and let me know that she had behavioural problems that were causing issues on the senior management team and they were handling them more urgently in light of my problems. It eased up for six months, but over the last few months she's backslid again. I've had to get therapy to manage my panic attacks due to her unpredictable behaviour, unprovoked attacks on my character and my inability to figure out what she wants from me.
I'm a hard worker and have done a lot to try to improve our organisation. I have never had issues with management at other jobs and until recently didn't even speak to people at my workplace about this. People who know what's going on have told me I don't deserve this and encouraged me to report her. Yesterday she attacked me nonstop in a workshop, and I finally snapped, called a meeting with a director today and reported every instance I can remember in the last two months where she's been horrendous to me. He said it had been long time he sacked a workplace bully (his words), immediately established a timeline for recourse, identified people to speak to, and reassured me that her behaviour is out of line.
I'm so so relieved that I finally had the guts to stand up and say something.
EDIT: sorry, I didn't expect this to get so big so am removing some details. thank you all for your very sage advice!
Put it in writing, and record the dates. Make sure you follow up with written complaints. I would also suggest that you request a transfer to an equivalent position elsewhere. This doesn't sound as if it will be "fixed" without a move. If you don't get the transfer, start looking for other work, and consult a lawyer.
Please remember that HR is not in the business of helping employees. HR is in the business of helping the employer avoid lawsuits.
Harassment and providing an unsafe work environment. OP said they've had to go to therapy because she's giving him panic attacks. That's an unsafe work environment.
Just for context "being a horrendous cow" is not illegal in the US. Unless OP was being singled out for being a member of a protected class, there is no legal recourse for having a shitty manager.
What a depressing win but I'm glad you got it nonetheless
You are shaping history, and well done, you took a personal tragedy and made a difference for those who suffer the same in the future.
Sad circumstance but you did great things with it. Good for you!
Yay! Congratulations! Inspiring how you've turned a personal loss into a win for so many others. ☀️
What would you give your college-aged daughter (besides good sense and situational awareness) for self-defense? Shes small.. Anything that could potentially be used against her (think weapon) is out!
Thankfully she hasn’t had to use it yet but my sister got my niece one of these because she had the same concerns about someone potentially overpowering her and taking away a can of mace or whatever. Can tell you it puts out the most deafening noise I’ve ever had the displeasure of hearing and would surely be effective.
Assuming you live somewhere with low crime rates, being physically assaulted by a stranger is very rare, and not really worth arming up for aside from keeping a pepper spray canister in her purse. (P.S. they have expiration dates so buy a new one every year or so.)
What she really needs is to understand the dangers of alcohol, being too trusting of strangers/classmates, etc. That's where she's likely to face things that will harm her permanently.
An uber account on my credit card so she can always get a safe ride home
Honestly, being physically assaulted by a stranger is the least-common thing to happen on college campuses.
The most common thing is that, for the first 3 months of school, you don't know your way around, who is "safe" and who isn't even in a group of friends that you feel like might like you (there's usually a person or two in every group who's sort of "creepy" for some reason or another; it's hard to tell if you don't know them well if they're going to subtly pressure you into sex or just really, really like talking about stuff that's sort of socially awkward), and if/when fun opportunities to socially bond will come again.
Figuring out what is normal is really hard, you feel lonely, it's hard to calibrate how much time you should spend socializing (or what you should do while you're socializing) against any internal metric you had for it before. Even if you're not making "bad" decisions you're definitely making different ones than you did before.
All of this leads to a convoluted maze where alcohol/drug/"fun" events are sporadic and hard to like, mentally parse and figure out how to handle. A huge amount of assaults happen the first 6-8 weeks (especially the first 2 weeks!) of freshman year, because you don't know how to get around, don't know who to talk to if you have problems, don't have a social safety net of people you can trust to have your back, and aren't familiar with the places you're going or the activities you're doing. Encourage her, like my parents did me, to err on the side of being more cautious, more careful, and more aware of what's going on for at least the first few weeks.
My dad told me to just not drink for the first two weeks and to get a campus map and put stars on it everywhere I went, was planning to go, and writing down my route from the places I went (and where my dorm was) so I always felt like I was safe/in control of the situation. I promise, there was more alcohol later. Have a real conversation with him focused on this instead of telling her to not drink/fear men helped me more than any other conversation would have.
Data Shows Contraception Lowers Abortion Rates and Saves Billions, but Why Do Republicans Continually Fight to Deny Women the Right to Birth Control
At some point I think it becomes a matter of principle for them, or at least a majority of them. That's what their stand has always been and that is what it always will be even when the numbers show that what they advocate for does more harm than good.
I went to school with some children born into Christian Republican households and they blindly parroted whatever their parents had told them without even knowing the intricacies of their argument. They would simply insist that birth control and abortion were against the work of god and therefore they were wrong. If presented with data like the above, they would simply say that those girls shouldn't even have had sex in the first place. So.. you can see how circular their logic can be.
It's funny, because in virtually every other political debate, I think the ideological position has a place alongside the pragmatic position which helps shape the discourse, comparing where we are to an ideal world. I guess the problem isn't that there isn't one ideological position here, but two: the religious right's ideological position basically boils down to "everyone shares my faith and acts in accordance to it." This means that no one has sex outside marriage, and that crimes of sexual violence do not exist. The ideological position of the secular left is that people should have control over their bodies as a human right, whether that's for sex (between consenting adults) or reproduction. So the ideal is sex however you like, with whomever, but being careful about contraception and working to stop STDs through modern medicine and education.
You can't speak about pragmatism within a model where any step down from the "ideal" involves sin. You can't talk statistics when the solution in their minds is everyone's conversion. Arguing from the ideal position for the religious right amounts to forcing others to not sin, according to their own paradigm. They don't see the structure of society and how it shapes one's options for family planning or lack thereof; they only see this story of individual sinners and a moral imperative, and because it's their own story too, they can't look beyond it.
Every argument I get into over this always eventually works it's way down to: only rich should be having sex. They don't like to remember all those "slutty," fertile wives. If I have more children... I'll need govt assistance to feed them all.... nope can't have that.
If I have too many children (even married) I'm irresponsible, slutty, and don't deserve help. If I don't want to have more children I can't feed I'm irresponsible to God's bullshit word for using BC, slutty for just wanting sex, and deserve the children I accidentally have from condoms.
It's always about controlling and punishing women and the poor.
With the advent of better contraceptive options came more independence for women. More women began working outside of the home, choosing career over family, and making independent life choices without the input of whatever man is "in charge" of her life.
Now imagine if you could undo all of that progress.
As a introvert girl who started gaining confidence this past summer, I am so proud that I just asked a guy out!!
TLDR: If you have feelings for a guy that you kinda know, just tell him and ask him out! I swear it feels way more relieved after than keeping your feelings in.
I have always been struggling with finding peace and confidence within myself until this past summer. I biggest thing I realized from my past long term (and first) relationship is that I depended on him too much on gaining confidence instead of feeling happy on my own. This past summer I had the perfect opportunity to live away from home due to an internship, and I gradually learned how to enjoy being alone while not feeling lonely.
The new semester began couple weeks ago and I met this very cute guy (who I have seen before with my friends but never really talked to) at a party. We immediately hit it off, chatted, and remained contact throughout the week. We met each other again at a party this past weekend. After flirting for a bit, I could easily tell that we both like each other by the end of the night. I decided to text him and ask him out on a date because my inner self was killing me with all this feelings getting stuck in my throat.
Even though he said that he had a packed schedule (and showed me and said "next time"), I feel much more relieved than disappointed. Now the pressure is out of me. Even if he doesn't want to go on a date with me, I gave him the best compliment I could do and I know he deserves it.
"Confidence is not know that "they would like me"; confidence is knowing that "I'll be fine if they don't."
Just got for it!
Congratulations! How exactly did you exact him out? What were your exact words? I plan to start approaching guys that I am interested in and I'm looking for suggestions about what to say.
Mine is usually "hey you seem interesting, do you want to grab a coffee/lunch/dinner/drink sometime?" It's ambiguous but also pretty clear and even if it isn't it's easier to express interest after hanging out 1 on 1
Im so proud of you son
What do you do when you can't afford pads/tampons?
So I'm a college student/young mom and everything I spend goes to rent/bills/my kid and I've got 68 cents in my bank account until Friday and I just started my period. I don't have any idea what to do. I've just been a mess all weekend because I feel so shitty and embarrassed that I can't even afford basic things for myself, I usually manage my money pretty well but I don't know what happened last paycheck. I never buy extra things, I live within my means as best as I can. I ordered free samples from Kotex but I'm not sure when I'll get them.
Does anyone have any tips for what I could do until Friday?? It's a really heavy flow and I have to stand up at work. Is there anything household I can use besides toilet paper?
It may be unpleasant, but there's a reason some people refer to your period as being "on the rag"
In the old days women would take a rag or small towel (washcloth or kitchen towel?), fold it and use it like a modern day pad. It would keep your pants clean until you can buy some pads
I think I'm going to do this, thank you so much. It's better than nothing! I have a washer/dryer too so I can just reuse it. I can't believe I didn't think of that.
Perhaps try calling women's shelters? I'm not sure if they would allow you to take any if you don't live there. Or is there someone you can ask for an IOU? I know it would be embarrassing, but better than bleeding out... And in the future, maybe buy one of the cups? They are reusable and then you wouldn't need to worry.
Does your college have a healthcare area where you could go ask for some?