The researchers say the findings support an “evolutionary argument” that low-status men with low dominance have more to lose and are therefore more hostile to women who threaten their status in the social hierarchy.
“As men often rely on aggression to maintain their dominant social status, the increase in hostility towards a woman by lower-status males may be an attempt to disregard a female’s performance and suppress her disturbance on the hierarchy to retain their social rank,” researchers write.
Its like someone read my mind and then went on to prove my thoughts with research.
Not at all surprising. I can't imagine any of my well adjusted, successful, normal-hobby-having friends freaking out at some woman online.
Anybody who attacks anybody on the internet is a loser. Happy, successful people don't waste their valuable time bringing others down.
The word for frowning up is "smiling."
I'm just a male waiting patiently for Vasalgel to release.Sadly the birth control and condom corporations are fighting hard to prevent Vasalgel going to clinical trials because it would do huge damage to their businesses.
https://www.parsemus.org/projects/vasalgel/ if anyone is interested in learning more.
While yes, birth control fails, it's far more likely to fail when people aren't aware of things that cause it to fail. Antibiotics and can the pill ineffective for example. It's really important than we focus more on educating people that it's only that 99% effective number with PERFECT use. Not typical use
Condom companies could do the right thing and go PR about STDs... might help them.
I had to get an abortion 4 years ago bc I got pregnant with copper iud. It does change ur life. I am very pro-choice. Didnt think I would need to make the choice since I am educated about BC. Either way it happened and people need to know that I didn't do anything wrong
If you want to reduce unwanted pregnancies and abortion, making sure that birth control is as accessible as possible is the answer. Any politician who doesn't support measures such as this isn't truly concerned about ending abortion.
Also, let us not forget the huge impact real sex education can have when it comes to lowering the abortion rate and teen pregnancy.
When I was in middle school, I remember the extent of the sex ed. we received. They showed us photos of people with sexually transmitted diseases, and then we were instructed to sign a little card promising that we would remain abstinent until marriage cause Jesus. Yes, this was a public school. Yes, once high school came along, they had to open a day care at the school due to so many students having children.
Not yet they can't! Took my gf to a Rite Aid here in Denver and the pharmacist first thought we were asking for plan B, then when we clarified he told us they don't provide it yet. He said pharmacists will need to undergo training before the service can be provided.
OP, can you can provide me a pharmacy that has already started providing this service? Because clearly Rite Aid does not
Get real. Pharmacists can handle the straightforward cases as well as I can. The complex stuff will get screened and referred to a physician. This system makes sense.
Also, it is disingenuous to talk about the clotting risk associated with birth control pills without acknowledging the MUCH greater clotting risk associated with pregnancy.
It isn't explicitly mentioned in the article but my biggest gripe is that this program promotes birth control pills (the least effective form of contraception in real-world scenarios) when any physician would be pushing LARCs like IUDs and Nexplanon. But better this than nothing.
Safeway has trained all of their people in CO. Try them.
I finally told someone to stop touching me
This is pretty silly.
I told a random guy at a bar to stop touching me.
He walked up behind me and slid his arm around my waist putting his hand on my lower back/hip multiple times. On one occasion he even attempted to stick his finger between my breasts to pull the top of my dress forward and put his shot glass there.
I immediately pulled away from him every time and an acquaintance even tried to play defense a couple times. Never once though, did I say "stop touching me".
I never do. I've been in situations like this countless times. I find ways of getting away without making a scene. Or I just fake laugh it off. Awful. This night I didn't though. After one last hug from behind, in a bar full of people (mostly other dudes) I firmly told him "You need to stop fucking touching me".
The bar didn't even notice. But he did. He looked humiliated, and my night was much more pleasant after that. I feel so stupid for all those times I put everyone else's comfort above my own.
Obligatory Gold Edit: Uhm. Jeez guys. I wasn't going to edit because I honestly don't know what to say. But I'm pretty sure it's like Reddit law now. So thanks for the gold and kind words. Also, the creepers doing creeper things in my inbox, you can fuck right off too ☺️😐
No, not silly at all. Good job standing up for yourself. :)
Good job for telling him what's up. I feel like women sometimes have a hard time being confrontational, and instead feel the need to be "polite". This is stupid. Do you think a guy would tolerate being handled that way by a stranger? Absolutely not. And women shouldn't either. I have no problem giving a direct "Whoa, what the hell?" if someone is being a dick.
As a guy, this absolutely needs to happen more. Some men really need a firm denial. And the sooner it happens, the better. Nobody deserves to be uncomfortable.
Being too polite hinders me in so many areas of my life. Confrontation is my nightmare.
Need to vent- I like not being the bigger person right now.
I need to vent and get this out of my system just this once so bear with me please.
My husband cheated on me over 2 years ago and I divorced his ass the moment I found out about it. I didn't want to reconcile or anything, I was just done with him and there was nothing he could have done to change my mind. To me, I was released from my marriage vows the moment he broke his.
The other woman was all "you're not woman enough for him" and wanted to start shit with me but I told her many times before blocking her that she could have him.
That annoyed me ex who then tried to win me back because I guess he didn't like the fact that I didn't want to fight over him- he kept telling me, this is why he cheated, because I wasn't willing to fight for "us". I don't see the point of fighting for "us" if he wasn't until he got caught.
Him trying to win me back naturally annoyed the other woman but of course she took it out on me. I ended up threatening her with a restraining order if she didn't stop contacting me and told her that my ex was hers to do whatever she wanted and that there was no chance in hell I was taking him back so leave me the hell alone. She (thankfully) left me alone after that. My ex gave up too eventually and I got a great job elsewhere and moved out of state.
Fast forward 2 years ahead, she's pregnant and yup, he's cheating on her with someone else. Who saw that coming right?
Now she found me on my new FB account and wants to meet up and commiserate because she's fallen victim to him too.
I'm sitting here like- why you surprised? You KNEW what he was capable of because you helped him cheat. I don't owe you any commiseration just because 1) I'm a "sister" and 2) unlike you, I didn't go into this with eyes wide open.
I'm perfectly OK not being some noble, benevolent, forgiving individual because I've got my life to a place where I'm happy again, I have a great job, I love my new city and I'm 4 months into a relationship with a wonderful man.
I don't want any remnants of this drama in my life.
I don't need to be told I'm betraying the sisterhood (like where was the sisterhood when you were banging a married man?). I'm not his "victim". I divorced his ass and I'm happy now, I'm just glad I didn't have kids with this guy.
I get that the "nice" or "warm and fuzzy" thing to do would be all " stem the tide of malice, and pour into the wounded bosoms of each other the balm of sisterly consolation" Jane Austen style but no.
I feel like letting her into my life is just letting my ex into my life too.
I don't see why I'm being pressured into taking the high ground all the time. It doesn't give me satisfaction or make me happy.
I was told to be the "bigger person" when my husband cheated and I wanted to divorce. Apparently staying with him would have been the "noble" thing to because marriage is forever. I didn't.
I was told to be the "bigger person" when he wanted to come crawling back "because he'd seen the error of his ways" and accepting him back would be the "noble" thing do to as a wife.
I don't think staying with a cheater is particularly noble. I respect people who do but they aren't more or less courageous to me than people who don't. You have to do what is going to make you happy in the long term and for me, staying wasn't it.
Now I'm being told to be the bigger person by the woman who helped my husband cheat.
I don't owe her a damn thing but I really hate that being told to be the "bigger person" for me has always resulted in someone else's benefit, not mine but it's always positioned in a way that "best for me". How convenient.
I probably sound bitter but I'm more angry that the fact that I have done nothing wrong, done everything I can do to get away from my ex and his drama but it's still affecting me.
Anyway, I'm going to block her and move on but just wanted to get this off my chest.
you probably already know this, but you honestly handled this the best way possible. like you said, you don't owe anybody shit. live your life and definitely keep her blocked. she doesn't need a spot just because you were both involved with the same man. divorce was your exit out of any more drama involving them and she should know that. but whatever, ignorance is bliss.
any sort of message back would be an invitation to disturb your happiness and you don't need that especially now that you're doing better! you go girl!
Not your circus, not your monkeys
Thank you! I've blocked her now and I feel a lot better.
I had a BF of 8 years cheat on me with a barely legal girl. Being young and dumb, I didn't immediatly dump him...that is until the girl he cheated with called me at my house to have a "girl time bitch sesh" because she just found out that he was cheating on her AND me and that she thought we should band together and fuck up the 3rd girl he was porking...
I told her to take some time thinking about how absurd her request was and dumped the boyfriend.
Know you are not alone in delusional fuck-up land.
Reading something negative about yourself written by your significant other is one of the worst feelings you could every experience.
I read a psychology article about the feelings of loss when people go through breakups.
The theory of the article was that, when you get into a significant relationship, you start to view your partner as a metric by which you judge yourself. You start to define yourself by how they see you.
I would think that this fits your scenario, whatever the details are.
I've been with my SO for 31 years. The last 5 years have been very hard. I care for the woman but I feel that I'm no longer in love with her. That went out the window years ago. I guess her negative attitude contributed to that. I relocated to Florida in hopes of find a new job and starting over with her. She stayed back home. Been here 5 months and have never been more content. I know she feels the same way back home.
I just want to tell you, your relationship isn't a failure! Lots of people feel their relationships have failed when what they are actually doing is ending naturally, or changing. If you care about her and still thing you can be good partners in life, find a way to make the relationship suit your both better. It could be very unconventional. If you think she can no longer be your life partner, then split amicably and take some time and come back as close friends.
Even if it's something small. I remember an ex showing me his texts with a friend and while reading a long one, noticed the one above it complaining about me. It wasn't a big thing, just something along the lines of finding me irritating, but it felt like I couldn't breathe at the time.
If and only if?
I adopted an elderly Pitbull a few months ago, he's covered in scars and can't be around other dogs but I've never had a more loyal and protective dog. I'm now a huge fan of Pitbulls and will likely continue adopting them for the rest of my life.
*Identification Friend or Foe
Summary: Pharmacies are now allowed to offer certain medical services, the first of which is providing basic screening to provide a birth control prescription.
This sounds like the perfect compromise between safety and accessibility, as long as pharmacists aren't refusing to give it out for personal reasons.
Not to sound braggy or anything but after living in Colorado long enough, it'd be hard to find those kind of people here that would refuse. The culture here is very progressive
Interestingly (need I mention I'm a native?) I noticed that this story originated in Colorado Springs, which is pretty conservative for being a sizeable city in CO: it's where hard-line anti-abortion group Focus on the Family originated. And where a Planned Parenthood got shot up in 2015.
But they quoted a man in the article who acknowledged that BC pills can help prevent abortions which I thought was great. It's nice to see recognition that family planning is a good thing and I'm glad they published that tidbit.
Yeah it's almost like women are just as good as men and the pay gap is a result of women's jobs being paid less and not women being inherently less valuable or worse in some way.
Or a woman is less likely to seek that position.
Tried telling my friends this two years ago and think I don't support feminism cuz i,"don't believe in the pay gap," but they didn't listen when I said the bigger issue is women being discouraged from higher paying jobs.
Basically the article suggests that a woman working at the same company with the same level of authority and same job title as a man only makes a small percentage less. They go on to say that the real bias against women lies in the different NUMBER of women in these positions vs men.
A company is more likely to offer a man that position over a woman.
The Bible specifically:
Deuteronomy 22:28-29 “If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days."
Exodus 22:16-17 “If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride price for virgins."
aint religion grand
Uhh wtf, how was that ever a law?
All religion is garbage. I was raised Catholic. Absolutely abandoned that noise. I believe there is a god, and in being a good person to be rewarded (as in not punished) in the afterlife. The stories are nonsense.