Ladies, NOW is the time to call your senators to tell them to vote NO on the GOP healthcare bill. This bill kills maternity coverage. This bill defunds planned parenthood. This bill cuts Medicaid, which covers half of all births. They want to vote this week. Call NOW!
You can find contact info for your senator here.
You can also Tweet at them and write on their FB wall. After 5 pm, when DC offices close, use social media to share your opinion with them. Link to a list of all senate twitter and fb accounts.
Do not hesitate to tell them that a vote in favor of this bill will lead you to vote against them in every election until they are finally defeated.
EDIT: Dudes, you guys need to get on the phone, too. Having a baby isn't cheap, regardless of whether you're the male or the female in the relationship. This bill will cost you lots of dollars.
EDIT 2: Link to back up the claims in the title.
EDIT 3: The Center for American progress released a study that found that the GOP bill could result in over 200,000 people dying between 2018 and 2026 due to loss of coverage. Link.
EDIT 4: Offices in DC are now likely closed, as it is after 5 pm est. HOWEVER, you can still use the link near the top of this post to tweet and FB your senators to let them know this bill has to be defeated... or we will fire them come election time.
If you don't want to call, ResistBot is a great way to contact your senators. You can text "Resist" to 50409 and you will be able to send them a fax by texting your message!
medicaid which covers half of all births..seriously..
Not just ladies, but everybody. Believe or not, men also care about the heathcare that their SO receives.
I tried to search by state(FL) it said that I couldn't for security reasons. So I went to Rubio's website to contact him and I was sent straight to the same page that wouldn't let me for security reasons.
I'm not surprised, I know they don't want to hear from their constituents but come on, at least let me start taking before you choose to ignore my wishes.
Man, we've come a long way from the military sending investigators to gay bars and pride events taking pictures that might later be used as evidence. (USN, 1990's)
Have they changed the uniform regulation? Before you could attend events in uniform but could not participate without prior approval.
Edit: i see where he did get permission, but this is going to open the flood gates for wear of the uniform for all kinds of different events and wondered if the regulation had changed or was in the process of being changed.
Downvote me if you will, but there seem to be a lot of people here claiming that 'the military doesn't care/shouldn't be used for political causes', apparently forgetting that, until very recently, the military very much did care, to the point of ending someone's career if they were outed.
To me there is some reaching out to be done to repair those bridges, military or not, and it's appropriate that an exception be made.
holy shit it's so messed up that they were so obsessed with the idea of gay men in the military that they spent tax dollars to try to stalk them and take pictures of them.
They should be on every college campus. Night clubs too.
Only thing is, they put this vending machine in a busy study lounge in the gym.
It's really weird - I'm in the UK and sexy-time vending machines were already a fixture in every single nightclub toilet when I started going to them over 15 years ago.
The idea of not being able to buy condoms on a university campus is something that would never cross my mind. Anglo cultures are so similar, but certain things are very different.
EDIT - To clarify the birth control and the morning after pill isn't something available in the machines, but condoms definitely are along with accessories.
As long as expired products are removed this sounds good.
When i was in college i had to get condoms off amazon.
My mom and I were sexually assaulted today and thid time, I wasn't afraid to speak up
Today, I went out with my mom to run some errands in a very very crownded area, we were just walking when I felt something touching my butt, I turned around and there I saw this very friendly looking middle aged man, I thought that he can't be touching me inappropriately, it must just have been an accident, after all, this area is butt-to-crotch crowded. I just brushed it off and went about my day, but a couple of seconds later, the same man is now in front of me, and is fucking touching my mom's butt, I was in disbelief, AND THEN, he puts his crotch on her ass and grinds. I was shocked. I couldn't believe what I was seeing, never in my life would I ever have inmmagined to fall in this situation. I couldn't contain myself, I grabbed the fucker by the shoulder and pushed him away, I was so angry this 6ft tall bulky man almost fell from my push, and all I can remember from there is that I caused a scene and let all of my anger out on him.
The people in the area unfortunately didn't do anything about it, they didn't call the cops, they just avoided him and looked at him with disgust, he just ran away with his face down to the ground, and mom and i were too scared and mentally exhausted to actually catch him and call the cops, but nevertheless, I'm proud of myself for actually speaking up.
Edit : This post got too much attention, and I noticed that there are so many sick and perverted comments, to these I say fuck you, you are sick. And also so many comments saying that this story is fake and lacks evidence, seriously guys ? I'm not writing a report here, what would I need evidence for ? Why would I fake it ? Are you so understimulated in your life that you think that there are people just like you who would fabricate lies and write fake posts just so they could get that buzz ? Get a life. By writing this post, I was seeking support from the members of this sub, and I know that this is something they could relate to.
And to the people saying that this is not sexual assault... "Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Falling under the definition of sexual assault are sexual activities as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape." You hear that ? Fondling is sexual assalut.
And at last, thank you so much for your support and for the rest of the lovely comments, they really made me smile :)
WOW WOW WOW!
I'm so proud of you!
I'm sorry that other people did not take action against him and to support you two. But something just occurred to me. 10 or 20 or 30 years ago, very few women would have felt able to do what you did - push him away and publicaly call him out. Because of that, hardly anybody recognized this as a society-wide dysfunction. But, more women are calling it out, as you did. And talking about it... forcing society to face this problem.
The more people that do what you did, the more that bystanders will take action too. Hopefully, people who were there when you did this and took no action will go home and think and talk about this. Or someone reading or hearing about your experience will consider it fully. And those people will commit to taking action to help a sister - to be an advocate - the next time they are in the presence of this type of degradation or assault. And other women who hear your story will feel freed to take a similar action when it happens to them.
So, good on you! And THANK YOU for planting seeds! This is a great story - keep telling it!
Next time, hook your foot behind his when you push. He will go over. Scream too. Something like "don't you ever touch me or anyone else like that again."
Don't be afraid of making a scene in a case like this. Creeps need to be reminded that this behavior isn't proper.
If someone did it to me I'd be pissed and yell at them but if someone touched my mom, lord have mercy on them
Thank you ! I was soo dissapointed in people for not helping us, but then again, I live in a third world country and something as "minor" as being inappropriately touched is not seen as a very serious matter even though it's punished by law unfortunately. But honnestly I feel so empowered, and I will continue to speak up for myself in the future if anything similar ever happens again.
About 3 years ago I went into work without makeup on without thinking much about it and was mortified by the amount of people who were telling me how horrible, tired and ill I looked. So I thought fuck it, this is my face. And I've not worn makeup since. After a while people get used to seeing you without makeup, and now my girlfriends are constantly telling me how jealous they are that I can "get away" with not wearing makeup. I tell them all the same thing, how often do you see a girl without make up on and think 'ewh, they're not wearing make up?'. You are always harder on yourself than anyone else will be. And I get to rub my eyes whenever I like. It's the best.
Also, OP you are gorgeous!
Easy for someone with eyebrows to say.
Right?! I used to get that a lot too at first. "Oh, are you feeling ok?" "You look tired today." "You're not getting sick, are you?" NO. No I am not. I feel fine. Juuuuust fine. Decided not to paint my face today, thanks for noticing.
Helps that's you're naturally beautiful <3
I'm too lazy for makeup XD
Quite frankly, this bill is bullshit for women.
It's bullshit for almost everyone, but especially women
Please Vote in our next election and your own states / local elections.
So increase the military budget to go to other countries and fight nebulous pseudo-religious oil wars that get Americans killed under the guise of "defense", and defund healthcare.
If I were fighting a war to protect America, it seems to me the GOP is by far the greatest threat.
I dunno man. If you're an billionaire executive, it's a pretty awesome bill.
I can't stand the 'everyone's beautiful' mindset in America. I wish girls were taught that its ok to be average looking or ugly.
I'm average looking. I've been pretty plain-janey most of my life. That's just part of who I am.
I feel like it demeans my experiences as a person when people freak out if I draw any kind of attention to this. If I so much as hint at it people have to correct me and tell me "don't talk like that!" and "you're beautiful!".
When people respond like this it only makes me feel WORSE about who I am, not better. Its like an implication that being average looking is a terrible fate nobody should suffer. Its like they feel that its better for me to live in denial than be my authentic self.
Just a rant. I figured some of you might relate.
Seeing how popular this has gotten, I've decided to edit this now that I'm out of my rant phase: Genuine compliments are fine. They're easy to spot and you can tell they come from the heart. Things like "you have pretty eyes" or "I love your shoes". Its ok to be kind to people. Others can tell when you really mean it.
I think what I was trying to say here is that I don't like generic compliments that are obviously phony and meant to be auto-responses. I don't think anybody does. They often aren't even prompted and come out of nowhere. It comes off as patronizing more than helpful.
I agree with this, but I would also hesitate to agree with someone who's saying they're ugly or average-looking. You never know if they're actually trying to fish for compliments and would freak out if you agree with them.
If that ever came up and I didn't find the person attractive, I would pick out one thing I liked about them and compliment them on that. Thus, I would retain my honesty and they would be happy. For example: "You have amazing eyes." or "I love the color of your hair and how you style it." or "Your smile lights up the room." And so on.
If they are saying it just because they think you want to hear it, then yes, it's a shit thing to do. However, to you you might be 'just average' looking but to someone who knows you and loves you you may indeed be the most beautiful person. I remember I had a friend and he was pretty average looking, nothing special, but the more we hung out the better looking he was. I was really young at the time so I didn't understand that it was the fact that I was getting to know him and him being an amazing person all around that was changing my view of him. Anyway, my point is that maybe not everyone who has said it to you was just saying it, some people probably truly meant it.
Edit: to everyone that has replied to this, I would love to answer your replies but your comments are all being hidden or removed. I can read the reply in my notifications but when I go to see it on the actual post they are not there.
While I agree that you shouldn't just tell someone that they're beautiful because you think they want to hear it I am also firmly in the "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" camp.
Personally, I love flaws and imperfections. I don't know how to describe it but to me that makes someone more "real" and that makes them more attractive.
What I may find to be appealing others will not.
Don't buy in to the media-led standards of what is good looking and what is not.
Oh and lastly, I've seen gorgeous people turn ugly when they scrub their make up off and I've seen "ordinary" looking people turn into absolute stunners with a little bit of effort.
That's taught me not to judge people by how they look (particularly at any given moment) and get behind the looks to really know the person.
My male friend was sexually assaulted and I'm ashamed at my reaction
So, my (am female) male friend and I went to the spa today, me for a pedicure, him to get his eyebrows done. While I was getting my pedicure he told me the man that did his eyebrows convinced him to get a facial as well. I finished much earlier than him and waited and waited and several times thought about going back to see what was taking so long, but eventually he came out and paid and we left. I asked him, "So, how was your facial?" He got stone faced and said, I don't wanna talk about it. I joked, " What, did he do, touch your dick?" He clammed up even more and said again, I don't wanna talk about it. And I nervous/surprise laughed when he said, "Well, now I know for sure I would never be gay." And then I realized yes, my friend absolutely was sexually assaulted to the point where he didn't talk at all for the next 20 minutes, and then said he just wanted to cuddle or be held. And I felt like a piece of shit for joking about sexual assault. My friend is young-ish, just turned 21, and I asked him what he did? Did he tell him no or stop? He said he didn't know what to do, he froze. And as a woman who's been in that situation so many times before, my heart is breaking for my friend. I've let him know now he can talk to me about it, I asked if he wants to report it, he ignored the question. Right now I'm all about making him feel safe and comfortable and not pushing him to report if he doesn't want to. Just posting this as a reminder to girls like me, who still stupidly make sexual assault jokes. Gotta remember that this shit happens to guys too, all the time.
UPDATE: My friend is doing fine, we went and played video games for 4 hours and he's insisted he is okay several times. I'll probably keep asking though, hopefully I won't annoy him. -I know for a fact he is not gay -I do not know the details of what happened, but I'm assuming inappropriate touching -I'm sorry if this seemed as I was making my friend's assault about me, I was more trying to remind that men get sexually assaulted and women make terrible jokes -It isn't made up, I don't actually know what MRA means, I used a throwaway because my actual account would have been inappropriate to post this on. -Not in Vietnam
As a guy who was taken advantage of by a male in-home caregiver while I was recovering from some massive injuries. He doubled my prescriptions and advocated for more prescriptions on my behalf, basically zombifying me for nearly a month. Come to find out the creepy old fuck was a trauma nurse on alcohol suspension. I literally ended up walking to a friend's apartment one day to call my parents and other friends when I started having flashes of memories I couldn't place. Fragments of being assaulted in my own apartment. My phone was always missing. He was trying to convince me to sign over power of attorney,, all your basic isolation and dependancy building tactics. Ended with a bunch of people showing up to my place with cops to kick him out. It was nightmarish. My only slice is the drugs he had me on (30mg flexaril, 20mg percoset, phenobarbital, butylbital, ambien, chloral hydrate, dilaudid, all in some sort of rotation or all in one day.) distances me from the hazy memories. Although I was extremely upset when I watched a movie on Wayne Gacey because the serial killer clown acted and spoke in an extremely similar way.
Anyway, chickened out after talking to detectives when they brought up a sane nurse. Filed complaints with the medical licensing board and his hospital. Last I heard he never went back to work.
I have also had to take a buddy home after he was spiked on a separate occasion.
It's a fucked up world.
You're supporting him now that you know, and that's what matters. As a guy, that sort of joking is quite off the cuff between guys, and isn't necessarily out of order, since you didn't know exactly what happened and didn't realize the severity of it.
I'm sure he appreciates you just being there for him.
What the fuck is going on in this thread? Is it lunch time for middle school?
I think it's telling that you feel ashamed for your knee-jerk reaction, as we all often do. I can understand that this having happened abroad makes the idea of reporting daunting to him. But It might be worth it to, at least, place a call with the business alerting them to the situation.
He should see a lawyer before he reports. The Police and DA are going to be working towards the best interests of a conviction, and not necessarily the best interests of your friend. For instance, if he reports, and then fails to testify, he can be held in contempt of court. The U.S. Constitution guarantees the accused the right to cross examine their accuser, and there can be no conviction without testimony of the accuser. Having to drop a case is embarrassing for a DA, and can impact their future job prospects in the private sector. I wouldn't expect a DA to prioritize your friend's mental well-being over padding his win-loss record.
I will be curious to see if this actually happens.
About damn time.
I'm saudi female i live in Riyadh . I don't belive this is real .
Yeah, apparently it is also legal to show female nipples in many places that stil fine you.
Best way to keep people docile is to say you give them what they want and then just sit idly by as your subordinates ignore your order while you are all too content with that result.
That time my dad prohibited me to get my upper leg waxed
My mom was never much of a "let's do things together!" Which was fine but also sucked when it came to me wanting to try things such as manicures, waxing, bra shopping and what not. However, I had a great dad who was always willing to bring me to these things, so I never felt like I missed out on those things. He'd often drop me off and then pick me up or something.
When I was 16, right around prom time, I decided that I wanted to wax my legs. I mean, I obviously didn't want to have missed spots and I wanted my legs to be smooth and whatnot. My dad was very hesitant. He first said no, not yet, but as prom was approaching I became more and more insistent and he just said fine, that he'd do some research and book an appointment.
As usually, he held his word and a few days later, I had an appointment with the sweetest waxer I'll probably ever meet. My dad has ONE condition: no upper legs. We convinced him to do a couple inches from my knees, because... Dresses and skirts, but not more than that.
So that was a little over a decade ago. I continues going to her for a while and then I moved. Summer is here and I booked an appointment with her this morning. After all the catch up we did (a good 5 years!) she said she had to tell me something.
She told me that before my first appointment, my dad had called her and booked an appointment for himself. He spoke to her about her techniques and whatnot. He requested a full leg shave and she was happy to oblige. After he was done, he told her that he really didn't enjoy any of it but that his 16 year old daughter wanted to her her legs waxed and that he wanted to try it first. He booked an appointment for me that very same day. However, the waxer says that he called the very next day saying he had bruising on his upper legs and that it hurt. The waxer said it was possible and somewhat common, so he vetoed the upper leg for me.
O.M.G. The thing is, this is exactly like my dad. It's something he would do and it's something he'd probably never ever tell me he did. It was just another reminder of how thoughtful he is and always was.
I thought it would be a taboo on sex story, but turned out to be so sweet! Your dad is a hero!
As a man with fairly hairy legs this made me cringe so hard, your dad is a braver man than I am
Oh yeah, and he's super hairy too. I called him on my way home from my appointment and told him what the waxer confessed and all he could say was; at least you don't have a chest to wax, I don't think I could have handled that one.
The thing is that back then I totally thought it WAS a "nah, no need to wax upper legs, you're not having sex, ARE YOU?" I just never questioned it because it didn't bother me that much.