LPT If you accidentally start a fire don't lie. Stupidity is covered by insurance but lying can get you policy canceled.
I'm looking at you smokers. 😉
"I'm telling you, it was my cat. The mini-habachi in the middle of my flat had nothing to do with this.
What if it's on purpose?
Smokers are liars?
LPT: Initiate handshakes with professional women just as you would with men.
I'm always surprised to see men not initiating handshakes with professional women as they would with other men. I've made a conscious decision to do it with everybody regardless of sex. It's interesting that some of the women actually acknowledged it - so it must not just be me.
Edit. Thanks for the upvotes. I wanted to note that some have commented that it may not be the same in all cultures so know your circumstance. Edit 2: apparently the person of higher authority should initiate a handshake. I never really knew this and think it's kind of silly. But be aware.
For God's sake, don't go in for a hug. Yes, this happens in professional settings. Often.
As a professional woman I notice and appreciate when a man initiates a handshake with me. You are right, it doesn't always happen. For some reason we're treated more casually in general.
Kinda old school response here: in professional settings, you are correct, it is appropriate for a man to initiate a handshake with a woman exactly when and how he would with a man. Outside of professional settings, it is to be the woman's choice as to whether a handshake is a go. Therefore, while incorrect to wait at work, sometimes habit tends to delay the handshake on the man's part.
This is advice for the US. Customs elsewhere might be different.
I just wanted to reassure you that the hesitation is probably not due to a lack of respect for you, just a little hesitation as social rules are parsed.
Joe "Aren't you doing to stand when you meet a woman?" Dwight "I wouldn't stand for a man why would I stand for a woman?" Joe".....I like that"
LPT: When you have no cell service (multiple bars of service but nothing works) at a crowded event, turn off LTE in cellular settings. Phone will revert to a slower, but less crowded, 3G signal.
Carriers use multiple completely different frequencies for different generations of cellular technology. Since the vast majority of people have phones that support LTE (the fastest available now) this network will get clogged first, but the legacy network on different spectrum is indifferent to congestion on the LTE network.
TL;DR -- Toggle airplane mode a few times. If it doesn't help, force 2G only, not 2G/3G or '3G only'.
Hi. I've done work as a telcom engineer. This can work. If you're at a crowded event -- there's two things we do. In a building that regularly features large crowds, like a sporting venue, we've probably put one in the building permanently. If not, like a planned protest we expect a large turnout, we've probably got a truck or three that are portable tower masts creating few 'microcells' in the area. It'll be wired into a nearby hardline or microwave link to one of our high capacity nodes. But these aren't what your phone first connects to.
Why? We're inserting equipment into pre-existing network topologies. If we use the same frequencies, we'll cause interference in a nearby cell. LTE has over a hundred channels and each provider only uses a handful of them. We have unallocated spectrum to handle just this situation.
When your phone connects to the GSM base station, it is also told about the other networks. It bootstraps from GSM (2G) to 3G, and then LTE. Flip on airplane mode, then off, and watch the displayed network type -- you can sometimes see this happening. Your phone is designed to connect to the base station with the strongest signal -- but it will connect on all the other network types based on what the base station tells it to. We can usually change the config for the base station to start handing out these 'extra' LTE slots. It's the same for all the other protocol types. 3G doesn't have extra slots to hand out, so depending on where we have to setup, we might be able to set up a 3G AP, but sometimes not, especially in urban areas.
Our portable equipment usually signals both as LTE and 3G. Forcing 3G won't speed anything up if we couldn't provision a new cell. So the 3G is still a bag on the side of the GSM base. If the backhaul link there is saturated it's going to the same place just on a different protocol. LTE is a better choice -- but you may want to try toggling airplane mode a few times to see if you can get a different list of LTE channels on the next handover. It could get you on a new backhaul link. We can't balance the links because they're physically different. We cheat by telling the phones to connect to randomly assigned channels. Sometimes that load balancing work-around doesn't go well. And until the phone tries to reconnect to another GSM base, it won't go hunting. We have to do this because LTE spectrum isn't contiguous. Some phones can access these other bands, some can't. The ones that can't all get lumped in to a subset of these and can't take advantage of some of the new channels we've made available (sometimes). Newer phones should have RF baseband chips to let them access it, but some manufacturers are cheap and don't upgrade that part of the design for awhile but keep releasing new phones based on it. Shame on them. D:
All this said, if everything is swamped, don't kick it to 3G only -- drop it to 2G. Everything we've setup is to take pressure off that base station to maximize bandwidth out of it for voice calls. We don't want that to fail because that's the only station that sets them up. The same pipe that handles all of our signaling and routing for voice calls also has a data line: The 2G one. If nobody's making voice calls, the data line for 2G will be pretty idle. Almost nothing uses it these days except in rural areas. But it's still provisioned. It's still gonna be slower than you're used to but if everything else has a buffer a mile deep, you'll get through faster because that link won't be sharing with anyone.
If you're lucky enough to not have a data roaming fee tacked on (rare, but some people have international plans that strike it), you've got one more trick: You can force your phone to login to a different provider's network. It varies by phone and OS version, but go hunting for the 'data roaming' toggle, and the network selection screen. You'll have to disconnect any calls in progress but you can tell it to search for other providers. Try connecting to one manually. See if it helps. Remember to switch it back later.
One last thing: Don't tell us if you've done this, but if you rooted your phone, especially android, you might be able to override which tower your phone connects to. See official rules for details. Hunt for the weakest GSM station you can find -- it'll probably be a few miles away in an uncrowded area. Hook it up. It's most always at a traffic level typical for that tower's service area. But don't move around much after you do this if you're in a concrete building, especially on the lower levels. It's going to be a weak enough signal as it is. If it hits the noise floor it'll die and go back to its default behavior. You won't notice that, your data link will just go back to sucking. Try to get up high or outside if you can when you do this. This is a bit of black magic though. You need to know how to read tower IDs and country codes, etc., because even on Android they've made the API stupid and it won't decode it for you. That's too much to get into here, but if you're tech-savvy google it for awhile and play around!
I'm interested in testing this now. It seems like it makes sense.
It works best at events that are holding an abnormal amount of people. Most dramatic effect I experienced was at new year's Eve time square. Helpful at music festivals too.
So that's what I should do with my Sprint phone when there are more than 2 people around me. I knew there was a fix!
LPT: Speaking negatively about a person's indefensible traits is an effective way to ensure that person remembers you and the words you speak. In the worst possible way.
A comment you make about someone, and forget about moments later, may stick with them for the rest of their life.
In my early 20's, a co-worker told this to a much sharper-tongued version of me, and it had a profound impact on how I treated people from that moment forward.
I immediately thought about all of the shitty, terrible things that people said to me or about me over the course of my life, and how their words made me feel, and the thought that I had made others feel that way, without even realizing it - countless times, probably - completely struck me.
The thought that I could have caused a lifelong, negative impact on someone, and that they associate me, as a person, with some stupid, thoughtless comment was a pretty big thing to take in. That I could have made fun of something completely indefensible about them, causing them to feel insecure and lack self-esteem for something that they couldn't even help or control.
And that was just thinking about actual in-person interactions, without even considering all of the shit I said to people online in my younger days.
Hopefully these comments stick with some of you, and it causes a person or two to act less shitty to the people around them, even if they don't like them. It's a pretty cool thought to consider this same idea, but with a positive impact.
People may not remember all you say, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
"Indefensible!" "You keep using that word. I don't think it means what you think it means."
LPT: learn what big words mean before trying to use them.
What exactly do you mean by indefensible?
LPT: When tightening your budget, commit to simultaneously raising your quality of life by every means available to you.
I'm talking about things like taking advantage of everything that's free (libraries, museums, galleries, national parks, whatever floats your boat), tidying up and shifting things around in your home so it looks better, making time to hang out with people who lift you up, preparing the food and playing the music and wearing the clothes you like best. It helps the whole experience to be positive and uplifting and empowering instead of just feeling like deprivation.
, whatever floats your boat
Boat's out of my budget :)
Can confirm, partner left me with 9k in debt to clean up, had to buy a car so I could still see my kids and then had to start saving for my own home. Almost 4 years later the debt is paid off, the 11k car loan is paid off, I've paid almost 20k in child maintenance support and I have 25k in my bank account for a mortgage deposit, but I sat on my hands the entire time and barely left the house so as to not spend anything, but I'm miserable and depressed as fuck, because being that frugal isn't healthy, I should have gone out more even if it meant spending a little. Learn from my mistake and don't jeopardise your mental health like I did.
I just finished a book called "The art of simplicity". It's main advice is to live your life like you described it (even if you're not on a budget).
That's a hell of a position you were put in, and an amazing feat under the circumstances to have paid all those debts AND saved for the deposit. I really hope in the next phase of your life you can take a heap of pride and satisfaction in everything you've achieved during these years and start doing a little more for yourself.
LPT: If you are looking for a whiteboard (for school, work, home) then buy shower boards at a home improvement store. They offer the same material for a ridiculously lower price.
If you are looking for a whiteboard of any size, then try going to Home Depot or Lowe's and ask around for shower boards. Chances are, you will find yourself a huge wooden "shower board" that looks exactly like a whiteboard. Ask them to cut it into a desirable piece (they usually do this for free). I ended up with three 2.5' by 4' sized pieces for around $12 which could have easily been $100. It works just like any other whiteboard. The link to one is here. Hope this helps for any office, home, or school that may need a whiteboard for cheap.
Edit: Dimensions of boards
Edit 2: Well, this blew up. Giving credit to my 8th grade math teacher for teaching me this tip.
Yeah, done that, and they aren't exactly the same. With shower board, you need a lot more elbow grease or liquid cleaner to remove dry erase marker.
You'll save money, but with a trade-off.
BONUS LPTs: i had lots of these in a dozen classrooms or so and learned...avoid the sprays like the plague. once you start, won't erase without it. if you use the brick-shaped eraser, clean them. i used to scrape the surface with a metal ruler and it got all the gummed up ink off. don't use the brick-shaped eraser, get a bag of rags instead. washcloth-sized rags are cheap, erase a lot longer between cleanings, and can pop into the washer (use bleach). once in a while clean it really well then use car wax (bonus: you get to say "wipe on, wipe off"). erases easily again like when they were new.
car wax (bonus: you get to say "wipe on, wipe off").
so close yet so far
I don't know what a "shower board" is but I'm glad the linked item page has a zoomed image of one so I can see what a white square looks like when enlarged on an entirely white background.
LPT: Don't buy a house near a school until you've visited the property at both 8am and 3pm on weekday
This is gospel. I live across the street from a elementary school. Literally where the bus line starts lining up 30 minutes before kids get out. Its a nightmare. The other side of the school is for parent pickup and by the time kids get out there are 50 cars running down the whole road that have been lined up for just as long blocking traffic. And this is on small side street city roads. You can't get in or out. And it's not just buses & parking. There are hours of screaming children at lunches and recess. Imagine groups of 50 in shifts running wide open and venting like a tea pot. It's not a place to buy if you work a 3rd shift job or want retire in quiet. And I would extend that time to 5pm. After school care & sports programs.
Someone once parked in my dad driveway. He parked right being almost touching. Took pictures of the plate of the other car.
When the person came back, she knocked on the door and asked my dad to move his car. He replied "I'm leaving for work tomorrow at 7am. I can call you a cab. An don't try to leave, you'll hit my car and I have pictures of your plate. Next time ask before using my property."
She told him to fuck off, so he closed the door.
She actually went to a neighbor to call a cab. Next morning a cab arrived at 6:45 to drop her off.
Every evening my dad would check and that car was never ever parked in someones driveway.
OR IF YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED WITHIN 100 YARDS OF A SCHOOL
And weekends if they rent out the building/playground to outside groups. I also live across from an elementary school. I have come home to discover someone parked in my driveway, people parked across the end of my driveway, people parked in front of my (and my neighbor's) mail boxes so that the post office can't deliver mail...
LPT: If you are having a stressful day or period of life, keeping your apartment clean and personal belongings well organized must be your top priority.
My life has been a disaster zone for a while. Everyday is a huge stress, which makes me a sort of expert in stress management. In times like that, even minor hiccups in your daily routine can derail your very fragile balance and sanity. You may remember from your own experience how easily you can become unreasonably aggressive if you haven't been able to find something in your room for half an hour while being in a big hurry. Things like that, when thrown on top of the already present stress from a complicated life situation, can make you behave unreasonably and aggravate everything even more. Nobody knows how it's going to end, but you will unlikely benefit from it.
Small things matter. That's where everything starts. The butterfly effect in action.
PS: Just finished cleaning my apartment. Feel much better and can think more clearly now.
I appreciate this message. I think it is important to remind people that work hard and forget themselves in the process. I may understand that sometime there is no room for other things than work in life, but do not lose yourself in the process, see your friends and family.
Cleaning my apartment has always been part of my process if I have something important to do. It definitely has the effect of clearing the mind and improving confidence and self esteem.
or even better i could lie in bed like the piece of shit i am.
I didn't mean to say that constantly taking care of your apartment at such times will be a big relief - I just wanted to point out that you should keep it clean and organized, preferably at all times. When you are down on your luck and problems are coming your way, it can make a big difference in how well you will handle them.
LPT: If your company offers 401k matching, do it. That's an instant 100% return on investment. That's better than any stock, bond, mutual fund, etc in existence.
I get 138% match where I work. Pretty much the only reason I stay
The US government wants to encourage you to save for retirement. So they created the 401k as a special kind of savings account:You can deposit up to $18K/year. This is $18K in pre-tax dollars, so in a way you can consider it the same as if you put roughly $22K into a normal saving account. Lots of employers match up to a portion of salary. As a typical example, say you make $100K and your employer offers 100% match up to 3% of your salary. That's an additional $3K you get, for free. You can keep the money in your 401k account in cash, or choose among several mutual and bond funds that your employer's 401k brokerage offers. Very popular (and decent) right now are target year funds. These will have names like Fidelity 2040. The 2040 represents the year you hope to retire. They are considered safe, no-brainer funds because they are automatically balanced as you get older (less risk as you approach retirement). You can literally set and forget for the next 20 years. Your money grows in the 401k tax free. When you retire, you are taxed on whatever you withdraw each year. The thinking is that you will be in a much lower tax bracket at retirement, so 401ks provide a significant tax advantage (reduce your taxes in step 1, and money grows tax free in step 4). Even though you contribute through your employer, 401ks belong to you. So if you leave a job, the 401k stays with you. You could have a situation where you 10 jobs over your career with 10 different 401ks. Although most people just roll 401ks into their current job for ease of management (there's a tax-free way of doing this). I don't recommend this, but you can borrow from your 401k for special cases: first time home purchase or expensive illness. You can also borrow for other reasons, but you get hit with a decent penalty. I don't recommend this because it's easy to borrow, very hard to put back. And this is your retirement we're talking about - it should be the ultimate "emergency fund". In short, 401ks are the easiest, most surefire way that an average person can retire as a millionaire.
Shit...if I make 80k a year, it would be 100k more than I make now. Fuckin' college.
Can someone please ELI5 401k?
LPT: If you find someone's identification card you can simply place it in your mail box and the post office will make sure it is returned. Free of charge no envelope just put it in mailbox! (I know this is the case for the U.S. not sure about elsewhere.)
Edit: Just to be clear. This is in regard to MOTOR VEHICLE LICENSES or STATE/GOV ISSUED I.D. THAT HAS YOUR ADRESS WRITTEN ON IT!
Edit: Wow! Did not expect this post to get nearly as much attention as it did! But Im thrilled so many people found this useful! Thank you!!!!!!!
Edit: I just want to give a bigg thanks to the Reddit community for making this a front page post that's got more than 25k updoots! Thank you guys. I can now die a happy soul. :)
Supervisor for USPS here, we do return it, but it isn't free. It is returned as a "postage due." Which means your mail carrier will knock on your door and you have to pay them the amount to receive it. An ID alone would be $0.49, or the price of a first-class forever stamp at the time, and a whole wallet would depend on size and weight. Bars dump hundreds of IDs in our blue collection boxes usually once a month.
Edit: words and facts
Edit #2: you do not get charged for sending it, the ID owner gets charged delivery fee for receiving it
Edit #3: I'm stoked to see so many people learned about the post office from u/shotty2daFbody . And glad to help the discussion! Thanks for the karma, friends!
Welp then the person who returned my ID was awesome, they put it in a stamped envelope. Thanks do gooder
I found an ID last week and the guy's 30th birthday is next Thursday. Strongly considering a birthday card as well
edit: wow the Reddit community never disappoints me. you guys are all such genuine, kind people! Ive even gotten PMs offering to foot the cost of a birthday card, haha.
I will pick up a card tomorrow and ill post the card before I send it!
UPDATE: My roommate and I purchased a card and packed it up! All that's left is to send it. I didn't leave instructions to post to reddit or anything like that, but if he wants to write back, there's a return address he can reach us at.
Hey, it was me. You can send me the cash value of a forever stamp to my mailbox. You're welcome.